” Why Do we Need to be in Mad Rush all the time …”?

In an Independence Day Special series, Rediff.com celebrates India through the lives of her people.

Today: Ashok Kumar Mondol, who drives the tram, a timeless Kolkata classic. Kolkata is the only city in India where you can ride a tram.

A Tram in Kolkata

Zindagi ek safar hai suhana/Yahan kal kya ho kisne jaana.”

I have been driving a tram in Kolkata for 32 years. The most picturesque parts of the route that I take are around Esplanade and the areas surrounding Fort William and Kolkata Maidan.

There is greenery all around and when it rains the entire area looks magical. On a rainy day, I feel like jumping out of this tram car. I feel like singing and dancing and getting drenched. But I can’t. My task is but to ferry the passengers to their desired destinations.

Every time I pass the Maidan, I fall in love with this city all over again.

The greenery enroute

My father was a Calcutta Tramways Company conductor. In his times, the pay scale at CTC was poor and he had a tough time taking care of our family of five.

After studying till Class 8, I was forced to leave school and share the burden of household responsibility.

I was good in studies and wanted to clear the Class 12 examination at least. But Baba desperately needed another earning member in the family. He needed to marry two of my sisters off.

I started trying for jobs. It wasn’t easy. Then a friend of my father said the CTC was hiring.

I applied and got selected. It has been a long bond of more than three decades. Loyalty with CTC runs in my family.

I lost my mother a few years back, my family now comprises my father, wife and two sons. We have a house in the southern suburb of Sonarpur.

My eldest son holds a master’s degree and works in a private company while the younger one is doing his graduation.
As I have served the state government for so many years, I don’t have much faith in private companies. Hence, I have asked my eldest son to apply for jobs in the CTC. It is obvious that with his qualification, he won’t be a tram driver like me!

Ashok Kumar Mondol, Tram Drive

A tram driver’s life isn’t easy. Though a tram doesn’t pollute, emissions from other vehicles that ply on the roads clog my lungs and at times it seems as if I can’t breathe. There are too many cars and buses on the roads now.

On returning home from work the first thing I do is take a long, leisurely, bath. There is so much dirt on the roads.

I talk to my wife and Baba over lunch and the three of us catch a short nap in the afternoon.

As my younger son goes to college, we get to see each other mostly in the evenings. I drive the tram from the CTC office till Esplanade every day.

I can’t understand why other Indian states don’t opt for trams. They are the most environment-friendly mode of transport. It is slow, but then why do we need to be in a mad rush all the time?

A tram car is hassle-free and most easy to control. Accidents rarely happen here.

In my long career, I faced an emergency only once when the tram I was driving got derailed because of a sudden electrical wire break, injuring a couple of people. But apart from that, the running has been pretty smooth.

Earlier, a traffic jam could never delay a tram. But now, traffic congestion is a major issue for us. Vehicles from every corner block the roads and also the tram tracks. Often an hour-long journey takes more than two hours.
Travel by a tram is a great stress buster. It is sure to soothe one’s nerves and I often see the rich getting into my tram with the chauffeurs of their cars following their masters.

Conditioned air inside costly cars can’t hold a candle to fresh natural air.

Celebrities generally avoid public transport, but once I had seen actor Chiranjit (Dipak Chakraborty, now a Trinamool Congress member of the legislative assembly) in my tram car. It was a red letter day for me.

I had taken his autograph and he had smiled at me.

My day starts at 5 in the morning and ends at 1 pm. I report for work around 6 am and wind up around 12.30 pm.

On reaching the depot, I sign the register and set out on my daily journey from Tollygunge to Esplanade.

On a light day or on weekends, I manage 3, even 4 trips whereas on a heavy weekday or during rains I manage 2 trips at the most.

I get short breaks in between trips and have breakfast at the CTC depot canteen.

I travel from home to the nearest metro rail station by an autorickshaw and then reach the Tollygunge Metro Station (recently rechristened Mahanayak Uttam Kumar Metro Station by West Bengal Chief Minister Mamata Banerjee). I follow the same route on the way back.

As the CTC depot is situated right opposite the metro station, travelling is really convenient. It takes me 30, 40 minutes to travel one way.
In recent times, CTC has revised its pay scales to a large extent and my gross salary now stands at Rs 30,000 a month. It is not huge, but enough to cater to the needs of a middle-class family like ours.

Besides, my elder one is also contributing these days and we don’t have anything to complain.

There was a time when CTC salaries were irregular. But not any more. Now, things are looking up.

A Tram passes by a fruit vender in Kolkata

Music was my passion from childhood and Ma had got me admitted to Bani Chakra (a well-known music school).

I learnt my music lessons quickly and was referred to as a shining star.

My parents thought a career in music would put me on the wrong track of life and my name was struck off Bani Chakra’ roster soon after.

India is a fascinating country. I am so proud to be born here.

I feel the country can be a superpower only if our political leaders stop looking at us, the people, as ballot papers.

We elect them, but the moment they ascend the throne of power, they start disowning us. This attitude has to change.

But it is also unfair to put the blame on the political leaders all the time. We, the citizens, too have some responsibility to make India a better place.

Why should we bribe to get our job done? Why should we evade taxes? Why should we be mean and divisive?

Isn’t it our responsibility to keep our motherland clean?

Golpo korte korte doshta bajiye fellum didi, cholun ebar jaoa jaak (We lost track of time chatting, let’s go, didi)!

After Indrani Roy/Rediff.com spoke to Mr Mondol at the CTC depot in Kolkata, she rode the tram with him.

He took her around a wet canopy of trees in the city’s famed sprawling Maidan, the Victoria Memorial, Fort William and unending Mayo Road — showing her own city to her in a way she had never seen before.

Mr Mondol is a very gifted singer

The minimum tram fare is Rs 5 and the maximum Rs 6. A ride in the heritage tram costs Rs 10.

Photographs/Video: Abhiroop Dey Sarkar.

Indrani Roy / Rediff.com

Source….www.rediff.com

Natarajan

Message For the Day…” God Knows What , when, and Where and Whom to Give…”

Fill your heart with love. You will be betraying yourself if you entertain evil thoughts but pretend outwardly to be full of love. Divine love will manifest itself anywhere at any time. One filled with Divine Love will be fearless, will seek nothing from others, and will be spontaneous and selfless in expressing their love. There is no need to pray for gifts from God. God will give of His own accord what is good for such a devotee. Did not Shabari and Jatayu get the Lord’s grace without their asking for it? God will decide what, when, and where to give. Hence, dedicate all actions to God and Let Him decide what you are fit to receive. When everything is left to God with pure love and total faith, God will take full care of you. People today lack such firm faith. Great devotees of the past who faced ordeals with faith and fortitude, ultimately secured divine grace and experienced bliss.

Sathya Sai Baba

Advice From 104 Years Old Doctor ….” Energy Comes From Feeling Good, Not from Eating Well…”

Advice From a 104 year  Old Doctor….!!!

Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara, Japan,
As a 97 year old Doctor, he was interviewed, and gave his advice for a long and healthy life… Born in 1911 he is now 104 years old …
 
Shigeaki Hinohara is one of the world’s longest-serving physicians and educators. Hinohara’s magic touch is legendary: Since 1941 he has been healing patients at St. Luke’s International Hospital in Tokyo and teaching at St. Luke’s College of Nursing.
He has published around 15 books since his 75th birthday, including one “Living Long, Living Good” that has sold more than 1.2 million copies. As the founder of the New Elderly Movement, Hinohara encourages others to live a long and happy life, a quest in which no role model is better than the doctor himself.
Doctor Shigeaki Hinohara’s main points for a long and happy life: 
* Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot.We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. I believe that we can keep that attitude as adults, too. It’s best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime.
All people who live long regardless of nationality, race or gender share one thing in common:None are overweight. For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Olive oil is great for the arteries and keeps my skin healthy. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. I never get hungry because I focus on my work. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat.
Always plan ahead. My schedule book is already full until 2014, with lectures and my usual hospital work.
There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. The current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years and only 125 Japanese were over 100 years old. Today, Japanese women live to be around 86 and men 80, and we have 36,000 centenarians in our country. In 20 years we will have about 50,000 people over the age of 100…
Share what you know. I give 150 lectures a year, some for 100 elementary-school children, others for 4,500 business people. I usually speak for 60 to 90 minutes, standing, to stay strong.
When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can’t cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery I think music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.
To stay healthy, always take the stairs and carry your own stuff. I take two stairs at a time, to get my muscles moving.
My inspiration is Robert Browning’s poem “Abt Vogler.” My father used to read it to me. It encourages us to make big art, not small scribbles. It says to try to draw a circle so huge that there is no way we can finish it while we are alive. All we see is an arch; the rest is beyond our vision but it is there in the distance.
Pain is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. If a child has a toothache, and you start playing a game together, he or she immediately forgets the pain. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke’s we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.
* Don’t be crazy about amassing material things. Remember: You don’t know when your number is up, and you can’t take it with you to the next place.
Hospitals must be designed and prepared for major disasters, and they must accept every patient who appears at their doors. We designed St. Luke’s so we can operate anywhere: in the basement, in the corridors, in the chapel. Most people thought I was crazy to prepare for a catastrophe, but on March 20, 1995, I was unfortunately proven right when members of the Aum Shinrikyu religious cult launched a terrorist attack in the Tokyo subway. We accepted 740 victims and in two hours figured out that it was sarin gas that had hit them. Sadly we lost one person, but we saved 739 lives.
Science alone can’t cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.
Life is filled with incidents. On March 31, 1970, when I was 59 years old, I boarded the Yodogo, a flight from Tokyo to Fukuoka. It was a beautiful sunny morning, and as Mount Fuji came into sight, the plane was hijacked by the Japanese Communist League-Red Army Faction. I spent the next four days handcuffed to my seat in 40-degree heat. As a doctor, I looked at it all as an experiment and was amazed at how the body slowed down in a crisis.
Find a role model and aim to achieve even more than they could ever do. My father went to the United States in 1900 to study at Duke University in North Carolina. He was a pioneer and one of my heroes. Later I found a few more life guides, and when I am stuck, I ask myself how they would deal with the problem.
It’s wonderful to live long. Until one is 60 years old, it is easy to work for one’s family and to achieve one’s goals. But in our later years, we should strive to contribute to society. Since the age of 65, I have worked as a volunteer. I still put in 18 hours seven days a week and love every minute of it.
Source….www.ba-bamail.com
Natarajan

” Let us Take our Eyes Away from the Dark Spots of our Life …”

The Black Dot: A Beautiful and Inspiring Story!

This beautiful story has a simple, yet important message. I hope as many people as possible give it a read. I know I am happy I read it, as it gave me a few things to think about in my own life. Sometimes it is the simplest of stories that make us ponder the most.

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the black dot

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the black dot

the black dot

Source……www.ba-bamail.com

Natarajan

” Kids with Big Hearts… Truly inspiring …”

Kids Who Give You Faith in Humanity

Everybody is born with a heart, but these kids are born with extra big ones. Their optimism and generous natures don’t let circumstances stop them from showing kindness to people and animals. These are the people who are going to change the world, one act at a time. Their stories are truly inspiring.

big hearted kids

This girl got proactive to raise money for animal care.

The card reads: “I sold my stuffed animals. So real animals can get better care. I got $40 bucks for you! from: Kiaha.”

This rescue shelter has a program called “Book Buddies”. Kids can come read to the rescued cats to comfort them.

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

The letter reads: “I’m going to shave my head in honor of all of the children fighting cancer especially my sister Natalie. And I DO NOT CARE if someone makes fun of me because I am beautiful no matter what! – Hannah Gorsegar.”

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

Eleven-year-old Jonah from Tennessee donated all his Halloween candy to kids affected by Hurricane Sandy, who couldn’t go trick-or-treating.

big hearted kids

Eight-year-old Tyler’s home caught on fire and he helped 6 family members escape. Sadly, he was killed after he ran back in to help his grandfather and disabled uncle.

big hearted kids

The fire brigade gave him a fireman’s funeral.

big hearted kids

When Emma decided to have a birthday party she asked that instead of receiving gifts that her friends give food and toys to the local animal shelter.

big hearted kids

Her friends listened. She was able to donate all these goodies to the shelter.

 

big hearted kids

Belal, a boy in Bangladesh, risked his life to save a fawn from drowning in the overflowing local river.

big hearted kids

Onlookers thought the boy might drown too. He emerged and returned the baby deer to its family.

big hearted kids

A  wildlife photographer who was passing by caught the incident on camera

big hearted kids

This boy saw that other children in his school didn’t have lunch and asked his mom if he could give them his. The next day he took this box with him to school. He also helped pack it.

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

When he broke his arm in October, this boy asked the doctor for a pink cast in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

big hearted kids

This teen volunteered to be a guide runner so that this blind cross country runner could participate in the race.

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

Six-year-old Lucas has Lissencephaly, a brain malformation confining him to a wheelchair.

big hearted kids

His eight-year-old brother Noah wanted to participate in the local triathlon with Lucas.

big hearted kids

He spent 3 months training to be strong enough to be able to push and pull Lucas through all three stages.

big hearted kids

big hearted kids

Source: Mickey R.  in http://www.ba-bamail.com

Natarajan

 

 

Message for the Day…” How to Experience Divine Love or Bliss …” ?

Sathya Sai Baba

Embodiments of Love! The hallmark of love is thyaga (selfless sacrifice). Love seeks nothing from anyone. It bears no ill-will towards anyone. It is utterly selfless and pure. Failing to understand the true nature of love, people yearn for it in various ways. You must cherish love with the feelings of selflessness and sacrifice. In what is deemed as love in the world – whether it is maternal love, brotherly love, or friendship – there is an element of selfishness. Only God’s love is totally free from the taint of selfishness. Divine love reaches out even to the remotest being. It brings together those who are separate. It raises a person from animality to Divinity. It transforms gradually all forms of worldly love to Divine love. To experience this Divine love, you must be prepared to give up selfishness and self-interest and develop purity and steadfastness. With firm faith in the Divine, foster love for God regardless of all obstacles and ordeals.

Message for the Day….” Suffering or Happiness one Experiences is the Result of one’s own bad or good deeds…”

Sathya Sai Baba

All the pain and pleasure people experience are the results of their own actions and not due to any act of the Divine. God is only a witness, a postman! He delivers to you whatever letter is addressed to you. The grief or joy you derive from the contents of the letter is intended for you! Likewise suffering or happiness one experiences is the result of one’s own bad or good deeds! However, God will shower ‘special grace’, when you pray to God with a pure heart, without a trace of selfishness and with sacred feelings. Also, when a person has done some unique sacrifice in a previous life or sometime in the past, the Divine rewards it at the appropriate time. Lord Krishna rescued Draupadi when Duryodhana attempted to disrobe her by making her sari endless. This was in return for the spontaneous act of Draupadi wherein she tore off a piece from her sari to stop the bleeding from Krishna’s finger.

 

Things Money Can’t buy…

For everything else you have your credit card!

Money could buy you a vacation, a day to the spa, a good education and a fancy home but what it can’t buy you is a break, relaxation, will to study and a family. While we look out for various ways to earn money and stress out all the time, we are losing out on our health and our energy.

We seek happiness in all avenues possible but one does not have to search oceans and travel through vast lands to be satisfied. Satisfaction comes from within and having knowledge that it always originates from the way we really look at the world.

Stop running after money because money could give you temporary happiness but it won’t be permanent!

Here are 9 things money can’t buy; for everything else you have your credit card!

1. Love

Love that comes from your family, friends, pets and the world cannot be bought. No matter how rich you are or how poor, love cannot be bought; it has to be earned! How do you earn love? By being kind and understanding.

You help people in need and you show your loyalty to the people who are really important to you and that is how you earn respect.

2. Respect

While someone like Steve Jobs earned immense amount of money, he also earned immense amount of respect. You are nothing without respect. It is an established fact that when people respect you, they believe in you and that is why they invest in your ideas and your ideals.

They invest their time in listening to you and following your advice.

If you want to go far in your life, you have to be respected till the day you die.

3. Friends

Turning into a workaholic may get you all the shoes, clothes and cars you like but who would you share your adventures with?

Friends are stepping stones to success and no one likes to be alone all the time. Money cannot buy you true, good friends and you must always remember that!

4. Trust

Trust is just like respect and love. If you’re trusted, you will be given money and not the other way round. Maintain a good reputation, have good habits and be a good, disciplined person in life and trust will follow you.

5. Patience

To earn more money or ever achieve any important goal in your life patience is the number one thing you must remember. Patient people invest in long term goals and long terms ventures ending up earning a lot of money.

Money can’t buy patience but patience can get you money!

6. Luck

Luck is a challenge; one minute it is right there and the next it’s on to help someone else.

Everybody needs just a little bit of luck, even the rich!

If luck is on your side you just need to work hard but if luck is not on your side you definitely cannot buy it with happiness!

7. Wisdom

Knowledge only enhances a human being’s personality, never destroys it. Knowledge is gold and is the best way to gain success however it cannot be bought.

It entirely depends on the person’s power to absorb information and the willingness to apply it to her/his life that brings wisdom.

8. Missed opportunities

A missed opportunity is a goal lost. Always embrace opportunities as they come and never take advantage of them as sometimes opportunities once lost will never return. Not even Bill Gates can buy opportunities. A person can make use of them as they come and sometimes s/he can even create opportunities for others and help him grow but s/he cannot buy opportunities for herself/himself.

9. Time

Time is money! A saying everybody lives by. If you waste time you’re wasting money. Bill Gates earns $250 a second and that is the perfect example of how important time is. Time is limited but money couldn’t be endless. Don’t waste your time doing something that isn’t productive if you want to get rich sooner. Use it for projects that make sense and can help you grow!

Source….Rajiv Raj in http://www.rediff.com

Natarajan

A Simple Guide to meditation at Home ….

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Meditation has many known health benefits, such as increasing longevity and reducing stress. People have been practicing meditation for over two millennia, with Hindu texts describing meditative forms as early as the 6th-century BCE. In my youth, if I heard the word ‘meditation’, all I could think about was a person in the Far East, sitting with his legs crossed and humming to himself. A couple of years ago I was introduced to real meditation and discovered the calming and healing properties it has, and now I’d love to share them with you.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

What is meditation

The Webster dictionary defines meditation as “the act or process of spending time in quiet thought: the act or process of meditating”. Many people meditate without even knowing that they’re doing it. A person sitting and fishing for a few hours in silence is performing a type of meditation, the same as another who might be jogging with their headphones on. It involves dedicating 100% of your attention to one subject. Meditation has also been a key factor in Eastern religions such as Buddhism and Hinduism, as well as Western religions like Christianity and Judaism

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Health benefits of meditating

Meditation has many proven health benefits, such as silencing your internal chatter, calming and grounding one’s self, and getting in touch with yourself, to name a few. A recent Harvard University study discovered that daily meditation can rebuild the brain’s gray matter in as little as eight weeks. Participants also reported a reduction in stress – a prime factor in the decrease in gray matter density.

Who can meditate

From young children to elderly people, everyone can meditate. There are many forms of meditation, some more suitable for people of different ages, so don’t be daunted if one form doesn’t work for you. Finding the meditation that suits you best is very gratifying.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Before you start meditating

The first thing you need to do, is decide on the purpose of your meditation: You may want to calm down, get to know yourself better, or even make an important business decision. Knowing why you’re meditating is the first step to a useful meditation. You don’t need special clothes (but comfortable ones make it easier) or equipment. All you need a quiet spot and to reserve some time for it.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

When you begin your meditation, don’t lay down or sit in a slumped position – these positions do not help you stay alert and focused. Sit up straight, either on a chair, on your heels or cross-legged. Find the position that is comfortable for you, sitting in the lotus position is not mandatory in meditation.

Don’t meditate after eating, digestion can be very distracting during a session. If you just had a meal, wait for 2 hours and let your stomach calm down. You should avoid smoking for at least 30 minutes before the meditation.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Find a quiet spot that you will be comfortable in, this is essential for the first few times you meditate. Once you are comfortable with meditation, you’ll be able to do it in noisier places. Remember to switch off your cell phone – it’s a distraction. Consider lighting a scented candle or some incense to help your meditation and switch off or dim the lights – bright lights may also be a distraction.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

How to meditate

Do some basic stretching before you start, it will loosen up your muscles and help you be more attentive to your body later on.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Breathing is the most important factor in meditation, we use each breath as a focal point. Close your eyes and deeply inhale through your nose, then slowly exhale through your mouth. Feel how your chest expands and contracts with each breath. Listen to the silence between breaths – notice how everything becomes still and quiet. You may even notice your heartbeat slowing down. If your thoughts begin to scatter, concentrate on your breathing.

As a beginner, focusing might not come naturally. Give it time and be patient with yourself. Some people find that focusing on their breathing won’t quiet their minds, and may need to try other methods:

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

  • Counting your breaths may help – count each breath and when you reach ten, start over. However, if you become focused on the numbers and not on the breathing, stop.
  • Another alternative is repeating a mantra – there’s a reason some people say “Om” when they meditate – it helps drown the outside world and focus on the sound. You can repeat any other word that helps you calm down if Om is not for you.
  • Try visualizing a calm place – it can be anything: the beach, a forest, your childhood home, etc. as long as it’s your sanctuary. When you find your sanctuary, don’t be afraid to explore it – there’s no need to try and “create” your surroundings, they’re already there.

A Beginners’ Guide to Meditation at Home

Set aside at least fifteen minutes a day for meditation (more is welcome). Remember: short daily repetitions are better than one long weekly session because they form a habit. Eventually, the practice of meditation will find its way into your everyday life. You’ll find yourself considering your food choices more carefully, making decisions more consciously and focusing on things you read, watch or listen to with greater attention.

One last thing

Learning to silence your inner thoughts takes practice, but managing to attain inner peace is a huge reward. Remember – “practice makes perfect”, so keep meditating regularly. It may take you a few weeks or even a couple of months to learn to properly focus, so don’t get frustrated or disheartened it you’re not a meditation guru overnight.

Source….www.ba-bamail.com

Natarajan

Message for the Day…” Combination of ‘shraddha’ [Earnestness] and ‘bhakthi'[ Devotion] is essential for Spiritual Progress…

Turn your mind Godward and you will experience the bliss of the Divine. It is for this reason that Swami gives you advice from time to time as to what you should do and what you should avoid. All this is not for My sake but for your own good, to make you take to the path of God Realisation, to teach you the supreme truth about the Brahmanand to make your sacred life an ideal one. Shirdi Baba used to ask for two rupees from devotees who came to him. The two rupees symbolised Shraddha (earnestness) and Bhakti (devotion). These are the two qualities He expected from the devotees. The combination of the two is essential for spiritual progress. Only then bliss will emerge like a plant from a seed. Everyone should strive to become an ideal human being. This means that everyone should testify to his Divinity. Imagine how happy everyone would be if the entire world was filled with this pure, sublime and sacred ideal.

Sathya Sai Baba