” How about a Piece of Advice From a 20 Year old …” ?

Words of advice from Oscar award-winning actors are all very fine. How about some from a 20-year-old?

Mass media student Chhaya Ranka has a few things to say.

1. Not everything happens according to us

Photographs: Kerri Lee Smith/Creative Commons

Your boss won’t work according to you.

Your cousin won’t change the date of her marriage.

Your boyfriend will breakup with you if he has to.

It’s called life. Deal with it.

2. People come and go. Life goes on forever

Remember that time when you were crying because you had a fight with your best friend.

Who cares now? S/he doesn’t.

And probably you don’t too.

3. Chocolate is heavenly but it makes us fat

Chocolate is sweet. Chocolate is yummy.

Who wants food when you can have chocolate?

But who wants to grow fat when you can be healthy?

4. You can’t always live with your parents

You are daddy’s little girl and mummy’s spoilt brat.

You are always going to stay that way.

Stop living your life under their shadow and start doing things on your own.

Learn something new. Study some course.

Get a job and earn money.

The satisfaction of earning your own money is worth it.

But don’t indulge into illegal activities.

5. The only person who matters the most is you

It isn’t wrong to take care of yourself.

It isn’t wrong to make yourself the most important person in your life.

Do yourself a favour and love yourself so much that it will be difficult for people to hurt you.

6. Our siblings are our first best friends

They know how weird we are.

But they never give up on us.

Even after some huge fights and arguments they always have our backs.

7. Money can only buy materialistic things

Feelings and emotions can never be forced upon.

But as Blair Waldorf in Gossip Girl says “Whoever said money can’t buy happiness didn’t know where to shop”.

That is a totally different case then 🙂

8. Smile a lot. People are watching you always

Yes. Smile.

As much as you can.

You never know who falls for that beautiful smile of yours.

PS: Avoid roadside creeps though.

9. Respect your elders

Listen to what they have to say.

Best lessons can come to you from them.

It isn’t always required that you do whatever they say.

Just listen to them and respect them.

10. No one can and no one will ever love you much as your family loves you

The last time I cried over a breakup was years ago but I remember how my brother was ready to team up with his friends and bash the ex-boyfriend.

Even though it was my mistake, my mother cursed the ex.

Even after all the wrong things you do, your family accepts you.

11. Movies are fictional

Apart from historical movies, Bollywood lies all the time.

Not all stories have a happily ever after.

In fact, all romantic comedies and action films and superhero films are lie.

A spider bit me two years ago; I didn’t turn into Spiderwoman.

Drive a car at the speed of 200kmph and in a matter of time you will be fighting for your life.

12. A perfect figure isn’t everything

Being healthy and taking care of your weight is a very good thing.

Some people love your inner beauty more.

In fact most people do.

 

Life is much more beyond a perfect figure.

What is the point of having a perfect figure when you know it won’t last forever?

Even if you are too thin or too fat, what matters most is your personality and how you make others around you feel.

13. Career is important

Build your career.

Learn new things.

Meet new people.

Make new connections.

A few years from now you will look back and realise there are a lot of things you wanted to do but didn’t or couldn’t.

Leave no regrets.

14. Life is full of priorities and choices

Family and career should always come first.

Then if you have time, get into relationships.

Now who wants to be a housewife or jobless?

15. General knowledge is an asset

 

A little bit of GK about the world does no harm.

The added benefit is you get to talk to anyone and everyone.

16. Everything happens for a reason

Bad things happen so that we understand what the good things are.

Good things happen to prepare us for the best things.

17. Fall in love. Date the wrong people

After every bad date you will realise who you really wish to be with.

It will also help you in becoming the kind of person you have always wanted to be.

18. Make mistakes

Make as many mistakes as you can. Learn from them.

But don’t repeat them.

Source….Chhaya Ranka in http://www.rediff.com

Natarajan

Message for the Day…” One should use Sweet, Pleasant, and Soft words …”

Inclinations (vasanas) won’t disappear as long as one’s heart is full of the illusion of egotism, even if one is immersed in many heart-purifying spiritual disciplines. Such people, if they want to get rid of the feeling of ‘I’ and ‘mine’, must worship the Lord. One whose heart is ruled by the group of six passions can have only ego as counselor! Those who have such a counselor are worse than foolish, however great they claim to be as pundits, aspirants, or renunciants. People experience joy and misery through the ear. Therefore avoiding the cruel arrows of hard words, one should use sweet, pleasant and soft ones — and with that softness, add the sweetness of truth. Making the word soft by adding falsehood only clears the way for more misery. A person who has become a spiritual aspirant should use very soft, sweet, true, and pleasant words. Such a person can be recognised by their good qualities.  

Sathya Sai Baba

 

Message For the Day…” How to Achieve the Spiritual Progress in One’s Life …” ?

The minute hand of the clock is the individual soul. It goes round and round – the hour hand does move, silently and slowly, with dignity. The hour hand is the Supreme Soul. Once in an hour, these two meet, but the individual soul does not get that consummation fixed forever. It loses the precious chance, and so has to go round and round again. Liberation happens when the two merges and there is just one. Like the silkworm that spins from out of itself the cocoon that proves to be its tomb, people spin from out of their own mind, the cage in which they get trapped. Assign your mind the task of serving the Lord and it will grow tame. Give your mind to the Lord. Forget the past and don’t worry about errors in future. Bring to memory only those things that are worth remembering and assiduously follow your spiritual practices. You will achieve spiritual progress.

Sathya Sai Baba

” If You Want Change , You Must get Your Hands Dirty…” Says Young Achiever Srikar Gullapalli

“We already have engineers and medical graduates, but we need more IAS and civil service professionals, we need lawyers and political experts to spearhead this cause.

“We need more people to write open letters to the President and Prime Minister.

“The RTI Act is your weapon. Use it to get facts and information you want.

Former Watson Fellow and social entrepreneur Srikar Gullapalli talks about the issues affecting India’s growth and tells us why he wants more people to actively participate in building a bright future and put India on the global map.

Srikar Gullapalli

When his peers were keen on studying engineering and medicine, Srikar Gullapalli was bitten by the ‘social upliftment’ bug.

The 23-year-old has stayed committed to the cause.

His life took a U-turn when he got the opportunity to travel to seven countries, between 2013 and 2014, to study citizen-state relationship as part of the Watson scholarship (instituted in the memory of Thomas J Watson, the founder of IBM).

Through the assignment, he interviewed key political figures and compiled crucial data that would help him understand how to deal with issues like tribal rehabilitation, militant movements and marginalised communities back home.

Having graduated in mathematical economics and political science from Colgate University, in the US, the young achiever is now readying to pursue a post-graduation degree in Public Administration at Princeton University.

In March 2015, he received admission offers from six international universities: Princeton, Harvard, Maxwell Institute, Duke University, Georgetown University and Carnegie Mellon University.

He picked Princeton because he felt it was best when it came to his subject of interest — public administration.

His comparative study on ‘Politics of Performance: A Comparative Study of Delivery of Good Governance by different Political Parties in India’ under the guidance of Vinay Sahasrabudde, director, Public Policy Research Centre (PPRC), New Delhi was released by Prime Minister Narendra Modi this year. (external link)

Since December 2014, he has been working with the ministries of health, drinking water and sanitation, in Delhi, researching the institutional gaps that exist in the current policies and how citizens can avail of better facilities.

We caught up with the young achiever who will be travelling to Princeton in September 2015, to find out how he plans to build a better India.

What are the problems coming in the way of India’s development?

We have a lot of policies, but the problem lies in execution.

Take, for example, the Land Acquisition Bill.

No one seems to understand the cause and effect of this Bill.

One needs to understand why the displacement is taking place and what are we doing about it.

Most of them (the displaced) do not have land of their own.

Besides, 50 per cent of the people in villages, including youngsters, want an urban job so they relocate to the cities and most of them never go back.

There is migration happening across villages in India.

Add to this the number of projects that are lying unattended.

At least 40 per cent of land development projects in India are currently behind schedule.

I feel we must have a system where unless we execute the existing projects, we don’t start or approve new ones.

Then there is the cultural divide, population expansion, and political debates that further delay projects.

Our collective aim must be to try and address these institutional gaps and bring in more clarity and transparency in execution.

We need to find out where the money goes and bring in more accountability in the whole process – perhaps a website where all this data can be uploaded and tracked.

Also, some of the policies and colonial laws haven’t been reformed since the time they were made. We need to reform our laws and policies to meet the present day requirements.

Why did you choose to go to college abroad and not in India?

At the age of 17, I wasn’t sure about my career.

I was looking for a flexible course that allowed me to study civics, advanced English and political science. Indian universities did not offer me that flexibility.

I did not want to be pigeon-holed and take up a course for the sake of completing my graduation.

At the same time, I wanted to study how things are managed internationally. So I picked Colgate University.

But whenever I had the chance, I preferred to work in India.

When I was chosen for a National Geographic project, I could have picked any country.

I chose to work on the Ganga rejuvenation and spent months interacting with seers and political leaders, trying to understand how we can bring positive change.

Tell us more about Shuddhify and what you achieved through it.

In 2011, I started Shuddhify as a social blog, funded by The World Bank Institute and British Council.

I would collect strategic data on corrupt practices in and around Bangalore.

For two years, I conducted a survey across nine government agencies and found large gaps in the system.

I compiled a report on this and submitted it to the Karnataka government.

When I was compiling this data, I received a lot of threatening calls from police officers.

I did not stop or heed them and went ahead with the report. In these times of corruption, civic activism is very risky, but someone has to start and lead the change.

Shuddhify’s findings on development policies were published in the Times of India‘s Bangalore edition, in August 2012.

The research findings were picked by the state government as one of the best policy papers which is part of the recommendations of the Sakala scheme of the Karnataka government (the scheme provides guarantee of service to citizens). This was an achievement in itself.

Srikar interviewing the next Shankaracharya as part of a NatGeo project in Allahabad, India

Srikar Gullapalli (right) interviews the next Shankaracharya as part of a NatGeo project in Allahabad, India.

What did you learn from your international assignments?

When I was picked for the Watson scholarship there were 40 other students from the US.

More than 1000 had applied for it.

Through the scholarship, I got to travel to diverse countries such as New Zealand, Thailand, Turkey, Syria and Spain.

I picked these countries because I felt they all had something in common with India.

The issues are more or less the same the world over — poverty, separatist movements, health and sanitation etc.

But each country has a different way to solve it.

We need to learn from the positives from other countries and work out a way to implement them in our country.

In your opinion, how can we bring about change?

We need more youngsters to take part in policy making.

We already have engineers and medical graduates, but we need more IAS and civil service professionals, we need lawyers and political experts to spearhead this cause.

People need to understand that the constitutional law is for real and it is there for everyone to touch and feel.

In Bangalore, there is incredible amount of civic engagement happening with the involvement of local bodies.

We need more people to write open letters to the President and Prime Minister, write more editorials in newspapers and start meaningful political debates that will educate and inspire people to join the campaign.

The RTI Act is your weapon. Use it to get facts and information you want.

In India, we see all the hype and energy from youngsters only pre and during the elections.

The period between elections has little or no engagement from the citizens. This needs to change.

What would be your advice to young readers?

As I mentioned, we need more young leaders in Parliament.

Between 1952 and ’57, about 33 per cent of representation in the Lok Sabha was from those under the age of 40.

Today, the average age of members is 50-plus and only 13 per cent are under the age of 40.

A person who is 75 years old is too old to be making decisions for a country where more than 50 per cent of the population is below the age of 30.

There has to be a healthy mix of ideas and experience — a mix of smart young people with ideas, and experts with experience.

Much as people disregard it as corrupt and apathetic, politics affects each one of us.

If you want change, you must get your hands dirty.

It’s not a choice but a responsibility we all share for the country we belong to.

There is a famous line in the Bhagwad Gita: ‘It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.’

Your advice to students who are looking to study abroad?

• Be prepared to negotiate for a lot of things that you were comfortable with in your home country — the luxury of food, relaxation from daily chores etc. You are mostly on your own and will have to learn to do things independently.

• Develop organic ways to solve your problems.

• Explore your academic freedom — make the most of the flexibility your international programme offers.

• Look for work opportunities and see if you can get people to fund projects and ideas in your home country.

• Do not restrict yourself to Indian friends and communities. Network with people beyond nationalities and cultures; be tolerant and humble.

Photographs: Kind courtesy Srikar Gullapalli/Facebook

Divya Nair / Rediff.com

Source…..www.rediff.com

Natarajan

 

Message For the Day…” Start Today the Spiritual Discipline that has to be Done Tomorrow…”

What is the use in planning a well when the house is on fire? Where is the time to dig now? When will water become available? When is the fire to be extinguished? It is an impossible task! If, at the very start, a well was ready, how helpful it would be on such critical occasions! Beginning to contemplate on God during the last moments is like beginning to dig the well when the house is on fire. Therefore equip yourself right now, by contemplating on God off and on, so that it will stand you in good stead when the end approaches. Start today the spiritual discipline that has to be done tomorrow! Start now what has to be done today! One doesn’t know what is in store the next moment; therefore there should be no delay in engaging in spiritual practices. For this physical stamina is also necessary, so the body has to be tended to, though over-tending causes damage. To the degree that is essential, the body should be looked after with great care.

Sathya Sai Baba

“Kids are Capable of Doing More than We Expect From Them…Watch this video clip…!!!

 

A compilation of incredible talented and fearless kids, demonstrating their skills at everything from skateboarding and weightlifting to surfing and basketball trick shots!

Source….www.ba-bamail.com and http://www.youtube.com

Natarajan

Age …No Bar For Dancing and Rocking…!!!…Watch this Video Clip …

What Happens When a Group of Seniors Goes on Live TV?

If you’ve never heard of the ‘The Zimmers’ you’re in for a surprise, as these delicate looking old folk’s performance will have you in stitches. This incredible group of happy-go-lucky golden agers has wowed people on live television, so if you missed it, here’s your chance.

BGT pensioners The Zimmers rock the stage with Beastie Boys
classic Fight For Your Right. How will the groovy granparents go down with
Britain’s Got Talent Judges David Walliams, Alesha Dixon, Simon Cowell and
Amanda Holden?

Source….www.ba-bamail.com and http://www.youtube.com

Natarajan

Something Different …!!!

Baba-Mail’s Interactive Zoo!

Zoos are a lot of fun. But instead of making the trip to see animals behind cages, why not enjoy this fantastic interactive zoo from the comfort of your own home?

We’ve collected some of the best animal moments for you from four different ecological enviornments, from the savannah to the arctic, from the ocean to the jungle – see majestic big cats stalking their prey, colorful exotic birds, extraordinary sea life and other beautiful wild life from around the world – all in one place! Some of the videos come with fascinating explanations that will enlighten and delight you.

Instructions: Hover with your mouse pointer over the PLAY symbols  and click on them to start the video! To close, just click on the X at the upper right corner of the video window.

 

 

source…www.ba-bamail.com

Natarajan

Words that don’t Mean what you think they Mean…!!!

1. Awesome

Neil Patrick Harris’s character Barney Stinson is perhaps singularly responsible for the misuse of this word.

More often than not, awesome is used interchangeably with ‘excellent’ or ‘great’.

Eg. X: I’ve completed the assignment

Y: Awesome

Ouch!

What ‘awesome’ means: something that inspires awe or an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration, or fear.

2. Literally

It is amazing how often we say ‘literally’ when we mean something figuratively, its exact opposite.

For eg. When Katrina Kaif sat next to me I could have literally died.

Now this would’ve been perfect if Katrina Kaif was, let’s say, infected with a deadly virus capable of killing anyone she sat next to.

Except, the last time we checked, she isn’t. 🙂

When you say literally, you mean something that is word for word.

Eg. When he heard the story, he literally fell off the chair laughing!
3. Anniversary

Some of us just look for reasons to celebrate… stuff like our five-month anniversary of our first date… don’t we?

The thing about anniversary is that it comes once a year. Quite like your birthday!

An anniversary is when you celebrate or commemorate an event that occurred on the very same date and month.

So you celebrate your first wedding anniversary or the third anniversary of someone’s death.

Just like you don’t celebrate your ‘three-month birthday’ you also don’t celebrate your ‘three-month anniversary’.

 

Though we suppose if you are one of those who love celebrations, you’ll find a reason to pop the champagne anyway. 🙂
4. Travesty

Here’s another oft-misused word.

What most of us think it means: a tragedy, an unfortunate event

What it actually means: a mockery or a parody

You could argue that Salman Khan being granted bail was a travesty of justice.

But to say that his running over a group of homeless people was travesty would be, well, murder of the English language.

5. Irony

The Oxford English dictionary defines irony as ‘a state of affairs or an event that seems deliberately contrary to what one expects and is often wryly amusing as a result’.

For eg. It was ironic for Tony Stark to think that Ultron would protect the world from destruction.

What we often think it means: a funny coincidence

For eg. Isn’t it ironic that we should meet Amitabh Bachchan in an elevator just after having spoken about him at dinner?

The answer to that question is no 🙂

Though it would be a wonderful coincidence.

6. Ultimate

It is fitting that we end this list with ‘ultimate’.

What most of us think it means: The best

What it really means: The last item on a list 🙂

Source….www.rediff.com

Natarajan

 

 

A Cheat Sheet to Increase Your Savings….!!!

You can still save a little more than you already are by changing a few spending habits. Here are some life hacks that will lead you onto the path of greater savings.

All of us know that in order to build wealth over the long term, we need to save diligently and in a disciplined manner. But every now and then you feel like giving into temptation and make impulse purchases that impact your savings. The trick to long-term wealth creation is to save efficiently and that can require a little bit of inspiration. So, here’s some for you.

Do you think you have run out of all ideas of how to save money, and there is no way that you can save more? Well then, here is some good news for you!

The cash only policy

Plastic money, like debit and credit cards are easy to use, and may just be the tap from where your hard earned money flows away. The fact the e-commerce is so attractive now giving deals everyday is fact that does not help either. You promise yourself that it’s the last thing you are buying for yourself in a month and then you go ahead and spend some more! If you are reading this with a pang of guilt right now, we have an idea for you.

The cash only policy

Plastic money, like debit and credit cards are easy to use, and may just be the tap from where your hard earned money flows away. The fact the e-commerce is so attractive now giving deals everyday is fact that does not help either. You promise yourself that it’s the last thing you are buying for yourself in a month and then you go ahead and spend some more! If you are reading this with a pang of guilt right now, we have an idea for you.

  • Remove your card details from the online shopping sites that you use them in and put your cards away in a drawer or some other safe place where you will not be tempted to touch them.
  • Think 20th century and live on cash only at least for two weeks.
  • Use cash to pay everything from your daily expenses and shopping (if your budget still permits it).
  • Live this lifestyle for at least two weeks to a month (if you can exercise restraint for that long!) and you will be surprised on the amount of money you will have saved by the end of the month.
  • The cash you save can be used to pay back the outstanding amount on your credit card. Paying outstanding balances in full is also a sure shot way of maintaining a good CIBIL score, so make sure you give this topmost priority.

Ignore the extra cash

Rare as these occasions might be, you are likely to a get a windfall sometimes in the form of a bonus, a raise that comes with a promotion or a tax refund.

Instead of splurging it on the new gadget you have been eyeing, ignore it completely and put it away right then! If you have a substantial amount pending on your credit card or your emergency fund is not quite replenished, use the extra money to take care of these issues right away.

Take our word for it: the feeling that your debt pile is under control or you have enough funds to fall back on in case of a sudden unpleasant change in life is a much better feeling than basking in the glow of a new gadget!

Wait up before the big purchase

So you have been eyeing the latest smartphone, the sleek laptop or the LED TV that will simply liven up your living room? If you are thinking about making some such big purchase, we urge you to wait up for at least seven days before you go ahead and do it.

Use this time to take a look at your financial plan and whether or not you are on track.

Ask yourself what will be the impact of such a purchase on your finances. If you are really honest, chances are you will find out that your financial security is a better option rather than the fancy TV or the latest smartphone!

Go on auto pilot mode

Thanks to the advances in technology it is easy to put your savings on auto pilot mode. This means that you can use the electronic clearing system or ECS to direct your money into any investment vehicle, whether it is a MF scheme, an emergency fund or a pension scheme. Not only is it easy to track your investments this way, it will give you the mental peace of having saved automatically each month without making any extra effort.

By putting these methods to good use you will realise over time that you have not only saved a greater amount of money, but your debt pile is also under control. All of these habits will help you maintain a good CIBIL score. A good CIBIL score can be your ticket to access credit when you are in need of it.

We are not saying that these are the most pleasant things to do, and may be painful too at times, but if you do manage to implement them, you will surely have created wealth over the long term, and that, we can assure you is an intensely satisfying feeling!

Illustration: Uttam Ghosh/Rediff.com

The author is Co-founder and Director Credit Vidya.

 

Source…www.rediff.com

Natarajan