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Never Forget the Intrinsic value of Grandparents to their Grandchildren…!!!

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I’ve always had a strong bond with my grandchildren, but I didn’t quite realize just how valuable that bond really is – particularly to them – until I came across a body of research that has observed the causes and effects of the beautiful relationships between grandparents and their grandchildren.

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While the love of a parent for their child is something that cannot be eclipsed, a grandparent’s love is likely to be just as strong, yet different. For instance, a grandparent does not have to deal with the daily pressure of parenting, thus the bond that they forge with a grandchild is both very close and very strong. Read on to learn more about the significance of these relationships:

The New Study

Researchers at Brigham Young University in the US examined the role of grandparents in child development. The research sample consisted of 408 fifth-graders, who were asked a series of questions about the relationship they have with their grandparents. Examples of the questions included whether they sought important advice from their grandparents when they needed it, or whether they felt comfortable discussing important problems with them. The same questions were posed to the fifth-graders one year after the initial question and answer sessions.

One of the conclusions that the study came to was that the emotional relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren had a significant impact on their academic, psychological and social development. Participating children who had grandparents that were highly-engaged in their lives were found to be more sociable, engaged at school and showed more compassion and kindness than those who didn’t have a close relationship with their grandparents.

Another conclusion arrived at by the researchers was that children with more affectionate grandparents tended to have a higher level of self-confidence, which had a long-term positive impact on their lives.

Demographic considerations were shown to have little significance in the study. Strong grandparent-grandchild relationships were found regardless of whether the child lived in a single or two-parent household. Income differences were also shown to have a negligible impact on the strength of the relationships. In fact, grandparents that lived in separate households to their grandchildren were found to have the best relationship of all.

Furthermore, the researchers were emboldened enough by the study’s findings to propose that grandparent-grandchild relationships are even more important than parent-child relationships. This is because children having regular contact with their grandparents meant that they were more likely to have developed the ability to think beyond themselves, and their immediate circumstances.

Grandparents as Protectors – A Specific Example

A particular instance in which the value of a strong grandparent-grandchild relationship can be observed is when the grandchild or grandchildren are exposed to high-risk situations, such as experiencing poverty or going through a traumatic family event.

An article published in the University of Florida’s Family, Youth and Consumer Sciences newsletter back in 2007, explored the impact of the grandparent-grandchild relationship on the negative effects that maternal depression can have on a child.

Depressed mothers and behaviors associated with being in that state were found to inhibit cognitive development in their children, especially with regard to teenagers. Furthermore, school-aged children and teenagers were shown as far more likely to be depressed as adults.

A further study in this specific subject area, conducted by Silverstein & Ruiz and published in Family Relations in 2006, found that children who had strong grandparent-grandchild relationships in their lives were less likely to suffer the ill effects of having a depressed mother once they reached adulthood. This is a clear indication of the positive effects that a strong grandparent-grandchild relationship can have on a child that’s going through a difficult time at home.

Never Forget: The Intrinsic Value of Grandparents to Their Grandchildren

Source….www.babamail.com

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Message for the Day…” A Body devoid of Divine strength is equivalent to dust…’

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The country is not made up of dust. It is a conglomeration of human beings. It is the human beings that give it the name of a country. If there are no human beings, it is not called a country. A country is very much like a human body. The divine strength of the country is the human nature in the body. If there is no divine strength in the human body, what is the use of this body? A body devoid of divine strength is equivalent to dust. The human form and human qualities are like the negative and the positive. If the unity and the oneness of these two aspects are not properly brought about, then both of them are useless. To make an attempt to transform the human nature in yourself and elevate it to divine nature should be the purpose of all the education that you wish to have.

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Message for the Day…” Enshrine Divinity in your Heart and make it Sacred…”

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Today we see human forms, but the human nature and human qualities are dormant in this form. Most people are behaving very much like an animal. The qualities which are precious and which characterise the human being are morality, adherence to truth, dharma, and the like. If these are not evident, then the human nature does not shine at all. We should promote human qualities. We should not cultivate simply the human form and appearance. You not enshrining sacred Divinity in your heart and thereby becoming distant from it, and also you letting your body go where it likes, are not human qualities at all. Enshrine Divinity in your heart and make it sacred. Then you can use the human form to its fullest potential.

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Message for the Day…” When Divinity dons the garb of a human body …”

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When Divinity dons the garb of a human body, people are thickly blanketed by illusion and become blind to the Divine Principle. Even Yashoda was no exception to this. Once Balarama complained to Mother Yashoda that Krishna was eating mud. When questioned by Yashoda, little Krishna made a startling statement, “Oh mother dear! Am I an infant to eat mud?” Poor Yashoda failed to fathom the depth of this wonderful divine revelation. She demanded that Krishna open His mouth, so that she could verify herself. Little Krishna opened His mouth wide. To her utter shock and amazement, Yashoda saw heavenly spheres revolving in Krishna’s mouth. That instant she realised that Krishna was verily God Himself. However as soon as Krishna closed His mouth and stood before her with an innocent look, she forgot about His Divinity, hugged Him, and treated Him like an ordinary child

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Message for the Day….”When our ignorance gets extinguished ….” ?

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The Ramayana unfolds the story of Rama. It is also the story of Divinity. Further, the Ramayana is the epic that unfolds the story of Sita, which is that of the individual self. The third aspect of the Ramayana is the annihilation of Ravana. The destruction of Ravana signifies the destruction of ignorance. Ignorance is extinguished when we realise perfectly the relationship between the individual self and the Absolute Self. There are three syllables ‘ra, aa, and ma’ in the word Rama. ‘Ra’ signifies the principle of fire; ‘aa’ signifies the principle of the Sun; ‘ma’ signifies the principle of the Moon. The Sun principle dispels the darkness of ignorance. The Moon principle cools the inner heart. And the fire principle destroys illusion.

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வாரம் ஒரு கவிதை …” உழைப்பே உன்னதம் ” !!!

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Message for the Day…” Try to understand the sole purpose of Education…”

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Earning money cannot be the sole purpose of education. Acquiring good qualities can be the only purpose of education. From our birth till the body perishes, we are making many attempts to earn money and acquire food. In this process of amassing wealth, we are adopting several methods which are adopted by the birds and animals. To acquire food, different kinds of strength, abilities, and skills are used by us; just as the very same skills are used by animals and birds! It is not right that we use all our knowledge and skill for doing just what the animals and birds also do. In the process of spending all our energies in acquiring food, we are going far away from the aspect of the Divine principle (Atma) which is the very purpose of this special birth.SI_20160510

Message for the Day…” Humans are part of Divinity and can not live without HIM …”

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Mother Sumitra’s twin children, Lakshmana and Shatrughna, arrived in the world crying. Sumithra tried various strategies but failed to soothe their inconsolable grief. Sage Vasishta then suggested keeping Lakshmana in the cradle with Rama, and Shatrughna in the cradle with Bharatha. Sumithra did accordingly and found that both stopped crying immediately, started drinking milk and playing in the cradle. The Sage explained thus, “Oh noble mother, a branch is a part of the tree. Humans are part of Divinity and cannot live without Him. Lakshmana did not rest until he was united with Rama and Shatrughna could not bear separation from Bharatha. The Individual cannot live apart from the Absolute Self, which is its source. A fish cannot exist away from water, even if it is placed in a golden bowl studded with precious stones. Similarly, the individual self is restless until it reaches the Absolute Self, which is its source.”

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Message for the Day….”Mother represents Nature, which is the manifest aspect of Divinity.”

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In this world, there are many types of relationships, but none equals the relationship that exists between the mother and the child. It is because of this intimate relationship with the mother that one’s own country is called motherland. Similarly one’s own language is called mother tongue, and not father tongue. Among the parents, the first place is given to the mother; next comes the father. Not only in day-to-day life but also in the field of spirituality, mothers and women are given the highest regard. For example, when we mention the names of divine couples such as Sita Rama, Radha Krishna, Lakshmi Narayana, etc., the names of the goddesses come first. What is the inner significance of this? Mother represents Nature, which is the manifest aspect of Divinity.

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அட்சய திருதியை அன்று ஆகார தானம்….

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ஆதிபகவனான விருஷபநாதர் மேருமலை போல் அசையாமலும், கடல்போல் கலக்கமற்றும் காற்றைப் போல் எதிலும் பற்றற்றும், ஆகாயம் போல் மாசின்றியும் தவத்திலிருந்தார். ஆறுமாதம் சென்றது. அவர் முனிவர்களுக்கு சர்யா மார்க்கமாகிய ஆகாரம் ஏற்கும் முறைகளையும் இல்லறத்தாருக்கு ஆகார தானம் அளிக்கும் வழிகளையும் விளக்க விரும்பினார்.

விருஷபநாதர் எல்லா இடங்களிலும் எழுந்தருளினார். அசுவினி நட்சத்திரத்தின் போது வரிசையாக வரும் நிலவு போல எல்லா வீதிகளிலும் வீடுகளிலும் முறையாக மவுனமாக எழுந்தருளினார்.

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மக்களுக்கோ விருஷபநாதரின் எண்ணம் புரியவில்லை. அவர்களுக்கு எதிர்கோடல் முதலிய ஒன்பதுவகைப் புண்ணிய வழிமுறைகள் தெரியவில்லை. எனவே சிலர் யானை குதிரை போன்றவற்றையும், சிலர் பட்டாடைகளையும் சிலர் உயர்ந்தரக அணிகலன்களையும் காட்டினர். ஆனால் எவருக்கும் ஆதிநாதருக்கு ஆகார தானம் செய்யும் எண்ணம் தோன்றவில்லை. எனவே பகவான் மேலும் ஆறுமாதம் உபவாசம் மேற்கொண்டார்.

மன்னனுக்கு வந்த கனவு

அஸ்தினாபுரத்து அரசன் சிரேயான்சன் கனவில் மகாமேரு, கற்பகத்தரு, சிங்கம், விருஷபம், சூரியன், சந்திரன், சமுத்திரம், எண்வகை மங்கலங்களை ஏந்திய தேவதைகள் தோன்றினர். அவன் மறுநாள் புரோகிதனை அழைத்து தன் கனவுக்கு விளக்கம் கேட்டான்.

புரோகிதன் அரசனிடம், மகாமேரு கனவில் வந்ததால், விருஷபதேவர் சர்யா மார்க்கமாக இந்நகரத்துக்கு எழுந்தருளுவார். மற்றவை இறைவனின் குணநலன்களையும் நமக்கு வரும் சிறப்புகளையும் குறிக்கும் என்றான். அதைக் கேட்ட அரசன் மகிழ்வுற்றான்.

மறுநாளே சுவாமி வந்தார். சிரேயாம்சன் அவரை எதிர் கொண்டு அழைத்தான். பகவானை வலம்வந்து வணங்கினான். சிரேயாம்சனுக்கு முற்பிறவி ஞானம் வந்தது.

முற்பிறவியில் முனிவருக்கு ஆகார தானம் கொடுத்ததும் அதன் வழிமுறைகளும் அவனுக்குத் தோன்றின. உடனே இது பகவானுக்கு ஆகார நேரமென உணர்ந்தான். தானம் செய்பவருக்கான முறைகளோடு சுவாமியை அரண்மனைக்கு அழைத்துச் சென்று உயர்ந்த இருக்கையில் அமரச்செய்தான். அவரின் பாதங்களைத் தூய நீரால் கழுவி, அந்தப் புனிதநீரைத் தன் தலையில் தெளித்துக்கொண்டான். மனம்,மெய்,மொழிகளால் தூயவனாகி வணங்கினான்.

தூய கருப்பஞ்சாற்றால் பகவானின் திருக்கரமான பாத்திரத்தில் நிரப்பினான். அவரும் அருந்தினார். தேவர்கள் பூமாரி பொழிந்தனர்.தேவ வாத்தியங்கள் முழங்கின. நறுமண மந்தமாருதம் வீசியது.

பகவான் ஆகாரம் ஏற்றார். இவ்வாறு முனிவர்களுக்கான ஆகாரம் ஏற்கும்

முறையையும் இல்லறத்தாரின் ஆகார தானம் அளிக்கும் முறைகளையும் நடத்திக்காட்டி மீண்டும் மவுனமாக வனத்தில் எழுந்தருளினார்.

இம்முறைப்படியே இன்றும் சமண இல்லறத்தார்களும் முனிவர்களும் பின்பற்றி போற்றி வருகின்றார்கள். அட்சய திருதியை அன்றுதான் பகவான் ஆகாரம் ஏற்றப் புனிதநாளாகும்.

Source…..விஜி சக்கரவர்த்தி in http://www.tamil.the hindu.com

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