” The sentences you need to stop saying to your kids…”

The might come naturally, but there are some sentences you should never say to your kids. Picture: iStock

THERE is no rule book when it comes to parenting.

We say things to our kids that come naturally. And often we say things that our own parents said to us. But unfortunately research has indicated that some of these simple sayings can have negative long-term effects.

Innocent sayings like “naughty boy” or “don’t be stupid” can be bad for a child’s self esteem because it teaches them to label themselves, explains Gregg Chapman, Psychologist and Clinical Manager at Strategic Psychology. He further adds that this may lead to a child developing poor self-concept.

Now you might be thinking, ‘But my parents said this to me and I turned out fine.” But as Dympna Kennedy, founder of Creating Balance, a parenting organisation that encourages parents to connect more closely with their children, points out: research and knowledge has come a long way in recent decades.

“It’s not about looking back and thinking my parents did the wrong thing by me,” says Dympna. “It’s about looking back and saying, ‘OK, they did the best they could with what knowledge they had at that time. But I now have the advantage of research and knowledge that they didn’t have.’”

And that research and knowledge says we should stop saying these things to our children.

1. “You naughty boy/girl!”

Instead address the situation. Gregg Chapman suggests a better statement might be: “Was what you did helping or hurting? If it was hurting let’s see how we could turn that around”

2. “How many times have I told you?”

Clearly your current approach isn’t very effective. Plus, do you really expect your child to answer this question? Gregg suggests saying something like: “I’m upset that I’m not getting my message across to you. How do you think that you could make better choices that don’t hurt you and/or others?”

3. “How could you do this to me? After all I do for you!”

Gregg explains that the child is not doing things out of a sense of obligation to the parent. They are acting to meet their needs and get what they want. He suggests not focusing on oneself as parent but instead helping the child understand the impact of their actions on others.

4. “You wait until you get home!”

As a parent you want to build a close relationship with your child but, according to Gregg, threats generate fear and insecurity and certainly don’t strengthen the parent-child relationship. Gregg says a better statement might be: “We will need to discuss this at home. I’d like you to think what you could do to put this right”

5. “Don’t be Stupid.”

Once again, children will label themselves as they have been taught. And negative labels such as ‘stupid’ do not foster a happy, healthy relationship with themselves.

6. “You make mummy very happy when you eat all your dinner.”

Dympna Kennedy says it is important not to teach children to do things for external praise. This teaches them to be people pleasers, which may lead to them doing things they may not want to do during their school years just to be accepted. Dympna suggests just saying “thank you” when a child does something you want them to do, or encourage internal self praise and say “you should be proud of yourself for eating all your dinner.”

But it goes without saying, sometimes in the heat of the moment a situation might get the better of you and what you say isn’t the best choice of words. And that’s OK because it is impossible to be a perfect parent all of the time.

“It is not about being the perfect parent because children don’t learn from a parent who is perfect,” explains Dympna.

“They learn from a parent who makes mistakes because that shows your child it’s not about being perfect but it’s about reflecting and learning and trying again the next.”

So the next time you go to say one of these sayings to your child, stop, reflect and try to speak to them in a way that will encourage them to become resilient, compassionate and confident.

Source…..Nicole Thomson-Pride news.com.au

Natarajan

கந்தசஷ்டி கொண்டாடுவது ஏன்….?

 

சூரபத்மன் தவமிருந்து, சிவனின் ஆற்றலைத் தவிர வேறு யாராலும் தன்னைக் கொல்ல முடியாது என்று வரம் பெற்றான். வரத்தின் பலத்தால், தேவர்களைத்துன்புறுத்தினான். தேவர்கள் தங்களைக் காப்பாற்றும்படி சிவனைச் சரணடைந்தனர். சிவன் தன் நெற்றிக்கண்ணில் இருந்து ஆறு தீப்பொறிகளை உண்டாக்க, அவை சரவணப் பொய்கையில் விழுந்து குழந்தைகளாக மாறின. அந்தக் குழந்தைகளை கார்த்திகைப் பெண்கள் வளர்த்தனர். பார்வதி ஆறு குழந்தைகளையும் சேர்த்து அணைக்க, ஆறுமுகமும், பன்னிரு கைகளுமாக ஒரே உருவமாக மாற்றினாள். “கந்தன்’ என பெயர் பெற்ற அந்தக்குழந்தைக்கு, தன் சக்தியை ஒன்று திரட்டி வேலாக கொடுத்தாள்.சக்தி வேலுடன் புறப்பட்ட கந்தன், சூரபத்மனை சம்ஹாரம் செய்து தேவர்களைக் காப்பாற்றினார். இதன் அடிப்படையில், ஐப்பசி மாதம் அமாவாசைக்கு மறுநாளான வளர்பிறை பிரதமை முதல் சஷ்டி வரை ஆறுநாள் கந்தசஷ்டி விரதம் இருப்பர். ஆறாவது நாளான சஷ்டியன்று, முருகன் கோவில்களில் சூரசம்ஹாரம் நடத்தப்படும்.

விரத முறை:

* அதிகாலை 4.30-6 மணிக்குள் நீராட வேண்டும். நாள்முழுவதும் விரதம் இருக்க முடிந்தவர்கள், பால்,பழம் மட்டும் சாப்பிடலாம். ஓரளவு தாக்கு பிடிப்பவர்கள் ஒருவேளை உணவும், மற்ற நேரங்களில் பால், பழமும் சாப்பிடலாம். உடல்நிலை காரணமாக சாப்பிட வேண்டிய
கட்டாயத்தில் இருப்பவர்கள் எளிய உணவு எடுத்துக் கொள்ளலாம். ஒரு காலத்தில் வெறும் தண்ணீருடன் விரதம் இருந்தவர்கள் உண்டு.
* முருகனுக்குரிய மந்திரங்களான “ஓம் சரவணபவ’ “ஓம் சரவணபவாயநம’ “ஓம் முருகா’ ஆகிய மந்திரங்களில் ஏதாவது ஒன்றை நாள் முழுதும் ஜெபித்து வர வேண்டும்.
* திருப்புகழ், கந்தசஷ்டிகவசம், ஸ்கந்தகுருகவசம், சண்முககவசம் பாடல்களில் ஏதேனும் ஒன்றை காலையிலும், மாலையிலும் பாராயணம் செய்ய வேண்டும்.

வழித்துணையாய் வா முருகா!

*முழுநிலவு போல குளிர்ச்சியான முகத்துடன் விளங்கும் முருகப்பெருமானே! வெற்றி தரும் வேலாயுதத்தை தாங்கியவனே! உன்
அன்பைப் பெற என் மனம் ஏங்கித் தவிக்கிறது. என்னை உன் அடிமையாக ஆட்கொள்ள வந்தருள வேண்டும்.
*முருகா! என் கண்கள் காண்பதாக இருந்தால் உன் திருவடித் தாமரைகளையே காணட்டும். என் உதடுகள் உந்தன் திருப்புகழை மட்டுமே பேசட்டும். இரவும் பகலும் என் மனம், உன் பெருமையை மட்டும் சிந்தித்திருக்கட்டும். இந்த அரிய வரத்தை நீ தந்தருள வேண்டும்.
*மாமரமாய் நின்ற சூரனை இருகூறாகப் பிளந்த வெற்றி வீரனே! கற்றவர்கள் புகழ்ந்து போற்றும் ஞானபண்டிதனே! செவ்வானம் போல சிவந்த மேனியனே! கடம்பம், முல்லை மலர்களை விரும்பி அணிபவனே! அறிவுக்கண்களைத் திறந்து ஞானத்தைத் கொடுத்தருள்வாயாக.

முத்துப்போல பிரகாசிக்கும் புன்னகையுடன் காட்சி தருபவனே! உமையம்மையை மகிழ்விக்க வந்த சிவ பாலனே! அழகெல்லாம் ஒன்று திரண்டு வந்தது போல, கோடி சூரிய பிரகாசத்துடன் விளங்குபவனே! அருட்கண்களால் என்னைக் காத்தருள்வாயாக.
*எங்கள் எண்ணம், சொல், செயலுக்கு எட்டாத பரம்பொருளே! ஆறுமுகப்பெருமானே! எனக்கு வேண்டிய வரங்களை வாரி வழங்க
பன்னிரு கரங்களுடன் வந்தருள்வாயாக.
*கருணைக்கடலே! கந்தப்பெருமானே! நமசிவாயத்தின் நெற்றிக்கண்ணில் உதித்த அருட்சுடரே! வண்ண மயில் மீது வலம் வரும் சுப்பிரமணியனே! வள்ளி மணாளனே! இதயமாகிய குகையில் வீற்றிருக்கும் குகப்பெருமானே! உனது திருவடிகளை சிந்திக்கும் பாக்கியத்தைத் தந்தருள்வாயாக.
* ஆனைமுகப் பெருமானின் தம்பியே! ஆதிபராசக்தியின் புதல்வனே! வள்ளிக்கு வாய்த்தவனே! குன்றெல்லாம் குடிகொண்டிருக்கும் குமரப்பெருமானே! சஷ்டி நாதனே! சூரபத்மனுக்கும் பெருவாழ்வளித்த புண்ணியமூர்த்தியே! எங்கள் தவறையும் மன்னித்து அருள்வாயாக.
*திருமாலின் மருமகனே! தெய்வானையை மணந்த வடிவேலனே! மலர்ந்த தாமரை போல எப்போதும் மகிழ்ச்சியுடன் இருப்பவனே! சேவல் கொடியோனே! மலைமகள் பார்வதி பெற்ற பாலகனே! மயில் வாகனனே! கிரகதோஷம் எதுவும் என்னைத் தாக்காமல் காத்தருள வேண்டும்.

Source…..www.dinamalar.com

Natarajan

Message for the Day…” Highest and Holiest Spiritual maxim…” Thou-art-That”….

Sathya Sai Baba

Utilize your authority over this body to foster the welfare of the world. This body is but an instrument, an implement given by God. Let it serve its intended purpose. Until the realisation of the purpose for which the implement is given, it is your duty to watch over it vigilantly and protect it from injury and disablement. During winter, woollen clothes are worn to withstand the rigour of the cold gales, but when the cold subsides, they are discarded. So too when the cold gales of material life don’t affect us in the least, the material body will no longer become essential. “Thou-art-That” – this is the highest and holiest spiritual maxim! You are the indestructible Atmic principle (Divine Soul). It is to realise and experience this Atmic principle, you have this body! In the process to realise the Supreme Lord here and now, you must take good care of yourself.

” ‘Can’t hide it forever’: The model who became a meme…”

Plastic surgery meme featuring Taiwanese model Heidi Yeh

The ad for plastic surgery featured Heidi Yeh with three children whose images were altered

A Taiwanese model who featured in an advert for plastic surgery is threatening to sue the clinic and advertising agency, after the ad became a popular internet meme. She told the BBC’s Cindy Sui in Taipei how she believes losing control of her own image ruined her life.

“I’ve broken down many times crying and I haven’t been able to sleep,” says Heidi Yeh, as she struggles to fight back tears.

“The biggest loss for me is I don’t want to be a model anymore.

“Just because I’m a model, people can hurt me like this and I can’t fight back. I just want to hide.”

‘You can’t hide it forever’

Her “nightmare” began in 2012 with a photo shoot for an advertisement aimed at convincing people to get plastic surgery at a Taiwanese cosmetic clinic. The photo showed very attractive “parents” with sought-after big eyes and long, well-defined noses, and their three “children”, their images altered to make their eyes look exceptionally small and their noses flat.

The caption read: “The only thing you’ll ever have to worry about is how to explain it to the kids.”

Ms Yeh says her contract, signed by her agency and the Taipei office of US-based international advertising agency J Walter Thompson (JWT), stated the ad would be used in newspapers and magazines, by that clinic only.

But JWT later allowed another plastic surgery clinic, Simple Beauty, to use it on its website; it also put the image on JWT’s Facebook page.

Before long, the photo made its way across the internet, with a new caption: “Plastic surgery – you can’t hide it forever.”

‘People thought it was real’

Then in 2012, a Chinese tabloid attached it to a fake story – which first emerged in 2004 – about a husband from Heilongjiang who sued his wife when he found out she had plastic surgery before they met, because their children grew up to look nothing like her.

“When I first heard about this from a friend, I thought it was just a one-off rumour,” said Ms Yeh.

“Then I realised the whole world was spreading it and in different languages. People actually thought it was real. Even my then-boyfriend’s friends would ask about it.”

The picture and accompanying stories came up on Google in several languages, including Arabic, English and Japanese, and have become a global meme.

Ms Yeh, who has shot TV commercials and ads for major companies such as fast-food chain KFC, computer maker Vaio and a Japanese facial products brand, began to get less work.

“People refused to believe that I had never had plastic surgery. Clients would ask me if I was the woman in the picture. After this, I only got small roles in advertisements.”

It also, she says, affected her personal life. She suspects her then-boyfriend broke up with her partly because he was embarrassed by the rumours. She says relatives and her current fiance’s family have also asked about them. Strangers would spot her in public and gossip about her, she adds.

‘No-one controls the internet’

Ms Yeh estimates she has lost $4m new Taiwan dollars (£80,000; $123,000) in potential earnings. She is threatening to sue JWT and the cosmetic clinic for NT$5m. She says her goal is not the money, but to clarify that none of the stories are true, and to get the companies to own up to their role in how her image was used.

Ms Yeh said she had tried many times, through her modelling agency or on her own, to get the clinic and advertising agency to remove the image from their online sites, but they didn’t until shortly before she, with the help of a Taipei city councillor, held a press conference this month where she made her threat to sue.

In a statement to the BBC, JWT said its campaign “was created to promote plastic surgery services in a humorous manner”, adding that it owns the copyright to the photo, and so has rights to edit, modify and use it.

But Ms Yeh’s lawyer, Chang Yu-chi, disagrees: “We gave you the copyright and the right to edit it, but we didn’t give you the right to let another company use it, and to use it online.”

Asked whether JWT tries to ensure its advertisements are not misused, the agency says: “As we all know, no-one controls the internet… We can’t anticipate what degree of an impact it will have, how people will view it, and what they will do with it.”

The clinic says it followed proper procedures to obtain the rights to use the image.

Both companies are threatening to sue Ms Yeh in turn for damaging their images and have demanded she hold another press conference to apologise. Some people, meanwhile, have suggested online that she’s seeking fame to re-launch her career.

But Ms Yeh says she is a victim of cyber-bullying, and that she decided to speak out to give herself courage.

As for the children, Ms Yeh and the little girl’s mother both said their images were edited to make them look less attractive. The mother told reporters her daughter was disappointed with how she looked in the photo.

Ms Yeh says she hopes the image stops appearing. “I can’t bear to look at it… The children may not use social media now, but it will hurt them when they grow up.”

Source…www.bbc.com  and http://www.viralnova.com

Natarajan

Message for the Day….” What is the Lesson ‘ deepavali’ Teaches us …”

Naraka Chaturdasi (or Deepavali) is the festival that teaches you to remember how character decides destiny, designs achievements and demarcates one as divine or demonic! Laziness is a demon that possesses and debilitates an individual. Its brother is conceit. Add anger to it and it will totally debilitate anyone! Anger weakens your nerves and heats up your blood, changing its composition. A simple burst of fury consumes the strength gained in three months! The Lord chose to invade Narakasura’s kingdom repeatedly, forcing him to explode into furious anger again and again! His resistance was thus annihilated. Learn from the Lord’s strategy. On this Deepavali day, people insist on wearing new clothes. Let your hearts too rejoice, clothed in fresh ideals, feelings and resolutions. Relish the sweets of virtues from today, and mould your lives into sweet songs of Love.

Sathya Sai Baba

” The Best Classroom in the World is at the Feet of an Elderly Person …”

Andy Rooney, a famous radio and television writer, once said, “The best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.” If you’ve ever sat down with a grandparent, an older mentor, or just an elderly friend, you know this quote to be true. While they might not know how to work Skype, they have endless amounts of wisdom to offer and hundreds of stories to share.

YouTuber Riyadh K wondered what he could glean from walking around the streets of Ireland asking old folks what their best advice was…the results will definitely put a smile on your face.

This makes me want to visit my grandmother and ask her all the questions. I know she has so much to tell. Who will you phone first to ask about their best advice?

Source…Amanda Black in http://www.viralnova.com
Natarajan

The Elegant Woodcarvings of Dongyang…China….

Dongyang is a Chinese city in the center of Zhejiang Province, about 200 kilometers south of Hangzhou, reputed for producing some of the most elegant woodcarvings in the world. This ancient art goes back by more than 1,300 years at the time of the Tang Dynasty. In the Song Dynasty, it became highly developed as an art, and reached its peak in the period of Ming Dynasty and Qing Dynasty. Dongyang woodcarving is characterized by high relief, multi-layers, and a rich composition of pictures, presenting the third dimension. The carvings often told stories from history and Chinese literary classics and poems, others reflected local customs.

 

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Examples of Dongyang’s magnificent woodcarvings can be found throughout the imperial palaces in Beijing, Suzhou City, Hangzhou City and Anhui Province. During the reign of Qing Dynasty Emperor Qianlong in the 1700s, hundreds of craftsmen came to the capital of Beijing to decorate the palaces and carve the lanterns. Those woodcarving articles are present to this date in the Imperial Palace in Beijing.

Modern architecture has almost uprooted this centuries old tradition. Many skillful carvers gave up the career and the craft was reduced to the making of souvenirs and decorative pieces. Dongyang woodcarving is still used, but only to decorate houses and furniture with realistic depictions of galloping horses, cranes, lotus flowers and human figures.

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Sources: retireediary / Cultural China / CNTV via Colossal

http://www.amusingplanet.com

Natarajan

Here’s How To Make A Perfect Key Copy With A Tin Can, A Lighter, And Scissors…!!!

If you’ve ever needed to make a spare key for your house, mailbox, or storage locker, you know what a huge pain in the butt it is. You have to lug yourself across town to the hardware store…I mean, who has the time for that these days?

Well, if you want to make a quick, one-time-use key for a last-resort-type situation, you can actually do that with just a tin can, a lighter, and some sharp scissors.

Pretty crazy how fire and tin cans work like that, eh? Just make sure to guard your keys, y’know, in case some robber knows this trick. Wouldn’t want to give them free access to your house, now would you?

Source….www.viralnova.com and http://www.you tube .com

Natarajan

 

Indian Student in London Designs Low Cost Baby Incubator with Cardboard ….

Malav Sanghavi, an Indian student studying in London has developed the prototype of a low cost baby incubator that has the potential to save many lives across the world.

It is a cardboard incubator called BabyLifeBox. Malav is studying for his innovation Design Engineering (IDE) Master’s dual degree course at Imperial College London and Royal College of Art.

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A graduate from the National Institute of Design (NID), Ahmedabad, he participated in a start-up competition held at St James’ Palace in London and won the 3rd prize for his innovation.

The incubator can be used in developing countries like India which lack adequate grassroots-level infrastructure for neonatal care of premature and underweight infants. It provides basic functions necessary for child’s survival in their first days of life.

The bottom part of the incubator can be given to the parent of the child after birth as a make-shift cot.

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Malav showed his BabyLifebox invention to the Duke of York during the Pitch@Palace Bootcamp –

According to reports, more than 300,000 babies die within 24 hours of their birth every year in India. And the cause of these deaths are preventable like complications during birth, prematurity and infections. More than half of all Indian women give birth without the help of skilled health care professionals, thereby leading to complications.

Malav came up with this idea a few years ago after his cousin’s daughter had to be kept alive in an incubator. While she had all the facilities available in a modern Indian city, Malav thought about all those infants who fail to get immediate care in remote villages of India. As of now, he is looking for initial seed funding to expand his team and bring more experts on board, develop minimal viable prototypes and start clinical trials.

He put his idea out at the Pitch@Palace event hosted by Queen Elizabeth II’s younger son, Prince Andrew – the Duke of York. Pitch@Palace supports UK entrepreneurs by connecting them with potential investors. There were about 200 entries this year at the fourth Pitch@Palace event. The theme was Internet of Things and Smart Cities. All start-ups, whose products are aimed at creating a smarter world and empowering people, could participate.

“According to our initial research, we found that India’s healthcare service has facilities to deal with a standard birth at sub-centres, primary health centres and community health centres but it lacks infrastructure for neonatal care of premature and underweight infants,” Malav told PTI.

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Source…Tanaya Singh…www.the betterindia.com

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The 15 Most Unusual Places of Worship in India. Aeroplanes to Clocks – Everything Is Offered!!!

Strange stories, superstitions, curious rituals, deep beliefs, undying faith, age old anecdotes – all these and more abound in places of worship in India.

Buddhist, Muslim, Christian, Sikh, Hindu, Jewish – we have people of every faith and belief, shrines dedicated to monks and pirs, and temples that have stood the test of time – because we are the spiritual hub of the world.

We worship the forces of nature and animals of course. But, when the fancy takes us, we also elevate our politicians and movie stars to God-like status. We have a temple dedicated to the country itself and another to a mysterious soldier who haunts the Himalayas. While other gods may be placated with flowers and candles, some of ours demand liquor and noodles too. And, given that this is the 21st century, they don’t say no to offerings of clocks and aeroplanes either. Or turn away Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg!

Read on and be amazed by the wonder that is India – here are 15 of the most unusual places of worship in the country.

Kainchi Dham, Uttarakhand: The Temple that gets visitors like Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg

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When Facebook was going through difficult times, Steve Jobs advised Mark Zuckerberg to visit an Indian temple, saying he found spiritual solace and guidance there. It was the Kainchi Dham Ashram of Nainital, Uttarakhand. It is believed that Jobs got the idea of creating Apple at this very place. The ashram was built in honour of Baba Neem Karoli or Baba Neeb Karori who is considered to be a reincarnation of Lord Hanuman. Taking Jobs’ suggestion, Zuckerberg did visit the ashram. But the humble place does not flaunt its celebrity status. Other than Jobs and Zuckerberg, Julia Roberts is also known to have visited the ashram.

Baba Harbhajan Singh Temple, Sikkim: The Spirit God

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Harbhajan Singh, a.k.a Major “Baba” Harbhajan Singh, was an Indian army soldier who lost his life in 1967 near the Nathu La pass in Sikkim. In remembrance of the “Hero of Nathu La”, army men have constructed a shrine close to the Indo-China border. Many soldiers in the area believe that his spirit protects them.

Legend has it that Harbhajan Singh himself helped the search party find his body after his death. Then he talked to one of his colleagues through a dream and told him to build a shrine in his memory. Some soldiers also believe that the Baba warns soldiers about any impending attacks. Many such tales of supernatural sightings and events revolve around this temple.

Nau Gaja Peer, Haryana: The Time Keeper

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Found on Grand Trunk Road, near Kalyana Village between Ambala and Kurukshetra in Haryana, this dargah (shrine to a Muslim saint) is dedicated to the Nau Gaja Peer (nine yards tall pir or holy man), better known as the “highway god”. Two things make this shrine unique – the large number of clocks inside and a very long grave.

Hundreds of devotees, especially truck drivers, offer clocks at the shrine to ensure a safe journey and a timely arrival. It is said that many years ago, a truck driver’s vehicle used to break down every time he passed the dargah. One day, he offered a clock there, and could complete his journey on time. The practice started since then.

People claim that Syed Ibrahim Badshah, or Baba Naugaja Peer was a 9 yards tall saint. That is equal to about 8 meters. Hence the long tomb. About 50 clocks are offered in a day, and all the clocks are tuned to the same time. Some clocks are also given back as prasad to people who offer them.

Paradesi Synagogue, Kerala – Of 11,000 Handmade Tiles

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A synagogue is a Jewish house of prayer. The Paradesi Synagogue, located in Kochi, Kerala, was constructed in 1567 by the Jewish community of Cochin. It is only one of the seven synagogues in Old Cochin area that is still in use.

The place is known among travellers for its 250-year-old handmade Chinese porcelain tiles. The floor is paved with 1,100 of these tiles. Every horizontal row has tiles with the same design, and there are four different designs. So the first row is identical to the fifth, the second to the sixth, and so on. Every tile is said to be unique in some way.

Copper plates from the 4th century are among many other valuable antiques found in the synagogue. They have inscriptions in Malayalam that talk of the privileges granted to the residents of the area by the erstwhile Cochin king. The inscriptions are written in mirror image writing.

Rosary Church, Karnataka – The Submerged Church

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This partially submerged church looks more like stranded ship. It was built on the banks of Hemavathi River near Hassan in Karnataka, where there used to be a village long ago. When the village got relocated upstream after the construction of the Gorur dam, this church was left behind. The dam waters started flooding and the church was submerged. It has been 200 years since it was constructed, and 25 years since it has been submerged. But the ruins still stand tall. Every year during the monsoons, the church gets submerged, and is visible completely only during summers.

The Natural Mummy of Sangha Tenzin, Himachal Pradesh

 

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Gue, a small village in the Spiti valley of Himachal Pradesh, is home to a 500-year-old mummified body of monk Sangha Tenzin. It is in excellent condition with hair and teeth preserved, and probably the only mummy in India to have undergone natural mummification.

Natural mummification is a very difficult process. A person’s body is made to react in such a way that body fats and fluids reduce at a constant rate and organs that are prone to decaying are reduced in size. One has to follow a special diet when preparing for death.

Legend says that monk Sangha Tenzin asked his followers to mummify him when the town was infested with scorpions. Once his spirit left his body, a rainbow appeared and the scorpions vanished. The mummy is kept inside a glass case.

Kaal Bhairav Temple, Madhya Pradesh – Where the Deity Enjoys his Liquor

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Located in Ujjain city of Madhya Pradesh, this temple is known for the many liquor stalls nearby. A typical offering basket here contains coconuts, flowers, and a 140 ml bottle of liquor. The devotees hand over the bottle to the priest who then pours half of it into a bowl and places it near the mouth of the idol. The bottles are then returned back to the devotees.

Some years ago, there was an interest in the fact the liquor disappears very fast into the deity’s mouth. However, a state sponsored research into the mystery did not yield any results. With the view of ensuring that devotees purchase liquor at the appropriate cost and are not cheated by non-licensed vendors, the government of Madhya Pradesh had even set up two liquor counters outside the temple from April 1 this year.

Shaheed Baba Nihal Singh Gurudwara, Punjab: Give a Toy Plane, Get a Visa

 

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Referred to as the “hawai jahaz gurdwara” or the “aeroplane gurdwara” by locals, this gurudwara (Sikh shrine) is located in Talhan village in Jalandhar district of Punjab. It is famous for special offerings of toy aeroplanes, as devotees believe that praying there increases their chance of going abroad. The toy aeroplanes are sold in nearby shops and most visitors purchase and offer them in the temple. It is unclear how this trend started.

Bharat Mata Temple, Uttar Pradesh – Where the Country Is the Goddess

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Located inside the Mahatma Gandhi Kashi Vidyapeeth campus in Varanasi, this is the only temple in the country that is dedicated to Mother India. The deity in here is a huge map of undivided India, carved out of marble. It symbolises the entire country with its mountains, plains and oceans. The temple was constructed by Babu Shiv Prasad Gupt before the partition of the country and was inaugurated by Mahatma Gandhi in 1936.

Bullet Baba Temple, Rajasthan – the Almighty Royal Enfield!

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The Om Banna temple – better known as the Bullet Baba temple – is located along National Highway 65 in Pali district, about 50km from Jodhpur. No idols, no pictures; the deity in this temple is a 350cc Royal Enfield Bullet motorcycle.

Legend says that about two decades ago, on Dec. 2, 1988, a villager named Om Singh Rathore lost his life after an accident on the highway. The police took away his motorcycle that had fallen into a nearby ditch. But the next morning, it was reported that the bike could not be found at the police station. It was at the accident spot instead. Villagers claim that the bike was again taken back and tied with chains at the police station. But it was back at the accident spot again. This continued after every attempt and the story of the mysterious bike soon spread far and wide.

Today, an elevated concrete shrine with a bust of Rathore has been constructed at that spot. Behind it, the motorcycle stands enclosed in a glass case. Almost everyone who crosses the highway stops at the temple to pray for a safe journey – some out of curiosity, others out of devotion.

Chilkur Balaji Temple, Hyderabad – “God, Please Help Me Go Abroad!”

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The Om Banna temple – better known as the Bullet Baba temple – is located along National Highway 65 in Pali district, about 50km from Jodhpur. No idols, no pictures; the deity in this temple is a 350cc Royal Enfield Bullet motorcycle.

Legend says that about two decades ago, on Dec. 2, 1988, a villager named Om Singh Rathore lost his life after an accident on the highway. The police took away his motorcycle that had fallen into a nearby ditch. But the next morning, it was reported that the bike could not be found at the police station. It was at the accident spot instead. Villagers claim that the bike was again taken back and tied with chains at the police station. But it was back at the accident spot again. This continued after every attempt and the story of the mysterious bike soon spread far and wide.

Today, an elevated concrete shrine with a bust of Rathore has been constructed at that spot. Behind it, the motorcycle stands enclosed in a glass case. Almost everyone who crosses the highway stops at the temple to pray for a safe journey – some out of curiosity, others out of devotion.

Chilkur Balaji Temple, Hyderabad – “God, Please Help Me Go Abroad!”

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The Chilkur Balaji Temple is one of the oldest temples near Hyderabad. It is located near the banks of Osman Sagar Lake. A majority of devotees who visit this temple have just one wish – they want a visa to travel abroad. That’s the reason why Chilkur Balaji is also referred to as ‘Visa’ Balaji.

The place became popular about two decades ago. Some software professionals whose visa request had been rejected earlier, got their visas to travel to the US after praying at the temple. According to reports, about 70,000 to 100,000 devotees can be seen in the temple when it opens on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. Typically, a visa aspirant visits before the interview. Once the visa is successfully obtained, he/she goes back once again.

This temple is also known for the fact that it does not accept any money from the devotees. The only fee people have to pay is for parking their vehicles, and that is how the temple sustains itself.

Chinese Kali Temple, Kolkata – Of Noodles and Fried Rice

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Located in Kolkata’s Tangra area, the Chinese Kali Temple is a symbol of cross-cultural assimilation. It was built about 60 years ago by Chinese devotees who had been living in the city for a long time to run their businesses. Prasad for the goddess here includes delicacies like noodles, fried rice, chop suey, and more. Many Chinese people of Indian origin from around the world, visit this place almost every year. Most of the people in the area are Buddhists and some are Christians, but many of them have faith in the Hindu Kali goddess.

Dog Temple, Karnataka – Giving Man’s Best Friend the Respect it Deserves

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A community in Ramanagar district of Karnataka decided to show their love for dogs by making a temple where man’s best friend is worshipped. People here believe that the dog has the power to stop all wrongdoings and set things right. The temple houses two idols representing the animal, and it is situated next to the temple of the village deity. Villagers believe that the dogs and the deity together will protect them from all harm.

Karni Mata Temple, Rajasthan: Home to Thousands of Rats

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Located 30 km from Bikaner, in a small town of Deshnoke, the Karni Mata Temple is better known as the Temple of Rats. It is famous for being home to about 20,000 black rats that are worshipped in the temple. The holy rats are called Kabbas. According to folklore, after the death of Karni Mata’s son, the God of death allowed the reincarnation of all her sons as rats. Devotees consider it highly honourable to eat prasad nibbled by one of the rats. There are some white rats too, which are considered special and are believed to be the manifestations of Karni Mata herself and her four sons.

Mannarasala Sree Nagaraja Temple, Kerala: The Serpent King

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Like most snake temples, this famous Nagaraja temple is located in an open space within a forest in Alappuzha district of Kerala. The largest such temple in the state, it has more than 30,000 images of snakes along the paths and among the trees leading to the premises. Most devotees bring in new snake images as offerings for the temple, and women seeking fertility often come to worship as it is believed that the Lord here has unbelievable powers and blesses all the childless couples to beget a child. Locals believe that it is not rare for the same serpent to appear at the same spot for a number of days continuously and people pray in close proximity to them. –

Source….Tanaya Singh in http://www.the betterindia.com

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