” Confessions of a confused Indian engineer… !!!

A guy who loved English literature but settled for electrical engineering and later, an MBA, pours his heart out…

When I started writing this article, I felt that such a topic might sound enormously blasphemous. I mean, it almost seems like a deliberate attempt to malign the second favourite national profession in our country (the first one is being a doctor). So, before you ask for my address, so that you can come over to beat me up, let me assure you it’s only mypersonal story. No coincidences whatsoever!

The first time I actually felt that it was high time to decide what to do with my life, I was in Class 8. Belonging to the ICSE board, we had to state our choices of stream in Class 9 itself. ‘Good people study commerce, great people study science, losers study humanities,’ everyone around said.

Except my father… he is a chartered accountant. J

I can still remember the heartbroken look on my father’s face, when I showed him the form with ‘Science’ written against ‘Stream of Choice’. Obviously, he would have loved his son to be in the same field as he was. But to think of it, had my father followed the footsteps of my grandfather, we would all be farmers today! Literally, ploughing in the ‘field’!

The first confusion started here.

I took up science because I loved physics and maths. But I equally loved English literature and history. This did raise some eyebrows. How could a sane person possibly love Science and Humanities at the same time?

Years passed and school was over. I went along with the herd mentality, sitting for every single engineering entrance exam I could find.  Medical was never an option (I could never see blood, so no confusion here!). I managed a decent rank and now it was time to decide a branch. This was relatively easy: I hated IT or computer science, the hot-selling electronics was houseful, and so I settled with electrical engineering.

But, it was fun. There were some amazing subjects like maths, mechanical engineering, power systems; and some horrible subjects too, whose names I don’t even remember. Being the President of the Tech Club at my college, I got lot of opportunities to conduct events, arrange activities and hone my technical and leadership skills. People looked up to me. Life was good, and it looked settled.

And one day it happened. It was third year and companies flooded in for placements. It was time to decide what to do next. M Tech? Nah! IT job? Never! Core Company? Err. May be!

And then I asked myself: ‘Dude, are you ready to spend the next 40 years of your life with motors, generators, transformers, transmission lines, substations and power systems?’

My inner voice replied: ‘No’.

I was stuck. What was I going to do with my career? What would happen to the electrical engineering learnt (rather digested) in four years? More importantly, what else could I get into, that I would love doing?

The immediate crazy answer was — Bollywood. But then the reality set in and my mind showed me three beautiful letters — M B A. To cut a long story short, I took a shot at CAT, made it to a premier B-School in Mumbai, and switched to marketing!

Now, when I sit back and retrospect, I feel that instead of engineering, I could have done an Honours course in economics or maybe a BBA, rather than looking like one of the ‘Gadhas’ Aamir Khan spoke about in 3 Idiots. But then I realise that I need to look ahead and forget.

Forget the injustice done to the learning of those four years. Forget the hurdles faced during job searches while switching from one field to another. Because after 40 years, no one in this world will be even bothered about why you did, what you did.

At that stage, you will be answerable to only one person.

And that person will be YOU.

And that person will ask you whether you gave in to peer pressure or did what you loved.

Please follow your heart, it’s never too late. Cheers!

Illustration: Dominic Xavier/Rediff.com

A sufficiently confused corporate professional, Pramit has been working as a Sales & Marketing Professional in the Software Product Industry for the last three years. A trained singer, Toastmaster, and theatre actor at Bengaluru, he seizes every opportunity to gain cheap publicity and limelight, whenever he is not working, eating and sleeping.

Source….www.rediff.com

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Message for the Day…” Difference between Ordinary Person and the Spiritual Aspirant…”

The spiritual aspirant should note the distinction between the conduct of the ordinary (sahaja) person and the spiritual aspirant. Rice in its natural state and boiled rice —can these two be the same? The hardness of natural rice is absent in the boiled one. The boiled grain is soft, harmless, and sweet. The unboiled grain is hard, conceited, and full of delusion. Similarly both types of individuals are souls (jivis) and humans, no doubt, but those immersed in external or multiplicity based illusions (avidya-maya)are ‘people’, while those immersed in internal or knowledge based illusions (vidya-maya) are ‘spiritual aspirants’. Though the Lord is situated in every heart, spiritual practice is necessary so that they may discover it for themselves, right? It isn’t possible for us to see our own face! We need a mirror! So too, a basic path, a spiritual practice, is necessary.

Sathya Sai Baba

Chinese Farmers Turn Rice Paddies Into Stunning Works Of Art….

Farmers in Shenyang, China, created these dazzling rice paddy images to pray for blessings, according to Imagine China. The locals inLiaoning province, members of the Xibo ethnic group, create a 3D effect with different varieties of rice saplings. The finished works span about 25 acres.

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A 3D rice paddy painting is displayed at a paddy field in Shenyang city, in northeast China’s Liaoning province, on June 22.
Source…www. huffingtonpost.com
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” வாடகை காரில் பயணம் செய்த ஒரு முதல்வர் …” காமராஜர் …

பொ.க.சாமிநாதன் எழுதிய “மூன்று முதல்வர்களுடன்’ நூலிலிருந்து….

காலை 8.30 மணிக்கு மேல் பார்வையாளர்கள் யார் வந்தாலும் அவர்களை முதல்வர் காமராஜர் சந்திப்பது வழக்கம். ஒருநாள் காமராஜரைப் பார்க்க

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முன்பின் தெரியாத ஒரு டாக்சி டிரைவர் வந்திருந்தார். “ஒரே கதவு உள்ள “கேசல்’ டாக்சியை வைத்து தான் பிழைத்து வருவதாகவும், அதனால் வண்டியில் ஏற, பயணிகள் மிகவும் சிரமப்படுவதாகவும், இரண்டு கதவுகள் உள்ள “பியட்’ வண்டி கிடைத்தால்தான் நல்லபடியாக தான் வாழ்க்கை நடத்த முடியும் என்று முதல்வரிடம் கோரிக்கை வைத்தார்.

அந்தக் காலத்தில் “பியட்’ காரை பணம் கொடுத்து உடனே வாங்க முடியாது. அரசு மூலம் கோட்டா பெற வேண்டும். கார் விற்பனையில் ஒருசில சதவீதம் அலுவலர்களுக்கும், எம்.எல்.ஏக்கள் போன்றவர்களுக்கும் ஒருசில சதவீதம் டாக்சி ஓட்டுபவர்களுக்கும் ஒதுக்குவது வழக்கம். அதுபோல தனக்கு ஒதுக்கும்படி அந்த டிரைவர் கேட்டார். அந்த டிரைவரின் பெயர் கந்தசாமி.

முதல்வர் என்னை அழைத்து, “அந்த டிரைவர் சொல்வது உண்மையா? அவர் சொல்லியபடி அவரது வண்டி ஒரே கதவுள்ள வண்டியாக உள்ளதா, அது அவரது வண்டிதானா’ என்று பார்த்து வரச் சொன்னார். நானும் அவ்வாறு பார்த்து, அவர் சொல்வது உண்மையென்று சொன்னேன்.

முதல்வர் காமராஜர் உடனே என்னிடம், “”அவர் கேட்பது நியாயமாகத்தான் இருக்கிறது. உள்துறை செயலரிடம் சொல்லி அவருக்கு ஒரு பியட் கார் ஒதுக்கீடு செய்யும்படி நான் சொன்னதாகச் சொல்லவும்” என்றார்.

சில மாதங்கள் கழித்து அந்த டிரைவர், முதல்வர் வீட்டிற்கு மீண்டும் வந்தார். என்னைப் பார்த்து, “”ஐயா, தங்கள் உதவியாலும் முதல்வரின் உத்தரவுப்படியும் எனக்கு ஒரு பியட் கார் ஒதுக்கீட்டில் கிடைத்துவிட்டது. புது வண்டி வாங்கி வந்துள்ளேன். முதல்வரை இந்த காரில் அமர வைத்து சிறிது தூரமாவது சவாரி செய்ய வேண்டும் என்பது என் ஆசை. முடியுமா?” என்று கேட்டார். நான் “”சிறிது நேரம் பொறுத்திருங்கள். ஐயா கீழே வருவார்கள். அவரிடமே கேளுங்கள்” என்றேன்.

முதல்வர் வந்தவுடன் டிரைவர் அவரிடம் கேட்க, காத்திருந்த பார்வையாளர்களிடம் “”இதோ வந்து விடுகிறேன்” என்று சொல்லிவிட்டு சிறிதும் தயங்காமல், காரில் ஏறிக் கொண்டார் காமராஜர். சிறிது தூரம் பயணம் செய்து அந்த டிரைவரை மகிழ்வித்தார்.

பின்னர் திரும்பி வந்து காத்திருந்த பார்வையாளர்களைப் பார்த்தார். அனைவருக்கும் ஒரே மகிழ்ச்சி. ஒரு முதல்வர் இவ்வளவு எளியவராகப் பழகுகிறாரே என்று தங்களுக்குள் பேசிக் கொண்டார்கள். அந்த டிரைவரும் தான் ஒரு கோட்டையைப் பிடித்த பெருமிதத்தில் மகிழ்ச்சியோடு திரும்பினார்.

முதல்வர் காமராஜர் தான் ஆட்சி செய்த காலம் முழுவதும் சென்னையில் கூட அரசு வாகனத்தைப் பயன்படுத்தவில்லை. “எம்.டி.டி.2727′ என்னும் செவர்லே காரைச் சொந்தமாக வைத்து உபயோகித்து வந்தார். அதேபோல் சென்னையில் தங்குவதற்கும் அரசு கட்டடத்தை உபயோகிக்கவில்லை. வாடகை வீட்டிலேயே தங்கியிருந்தார். தான் இறக்கும்வரை காமராஜர் அந்த வீட்டிலேயே குறைந்த வாடகைக்குத் தங்கியிருந்தார்

Source…blog.dinamani.com

Natarajan

Why Do People say “Say Cheese” when taking Pictures …?

Why do people say “say cheese” when taking pictures?  Also, why did people not smile in old pictures and when did they start?

smiling-little-girls“Say cheese!” This simple command is meant to elicit a smile from potential photography subjects no matter what their age. It has become so commonplace that the word “say” is often no longer uttered. A simple “cheese” spreads a smile across anyone’s face, and with a click of a button, that smile is captured for eternity.

No one can say for sure who coined the phrase “say cheese” for use in getting people to smile, nor can we say with 100% certainty why that particular phrase was chosen as the smile spreader. The leading theory, however, as to the “why” of “say cheese” is that the “ch” sound causes one to position the teeth just so, and the long “ee” sound parts their lips, forming something close to a smile.

The phrase appears to have been first used in this way around the 1940s, with one of the earliest references appearing in The Big Spring Herald in 1943:

Now here’s something worth knowing. It’s a formula for smiling when you have your picture taken. It comes from former Ambassador Joseph E. Davies and is guaranteed to make you look pleasant no matter what you’re thinking. Mr. Davies disclosed the formula while having his own picture taken on the set of his “Mission to Moscow.” It’s simple. Just say “Cheese,” It’s an automatic smile. “I learned that from a politician,” Mr. Davies chuckled. “An astute politician, a very great politician. But, of course, I cannot tell you who he was…”

It is thought the “politician” he was referring to was none other than Franklin D. Roosevelt, who Ambassador Davies served under.  So did President Roosevelt himself come up with the phrase or simply learn it from someone else?  Nobody knows, but soon after, saying cheese became a common phrase for people to utter when trying to get people to smile in photographs.

You wouldn’t have had to worry so much about this cheesiness in the Victorian era (1837-1901). During this period, etiquette and beauty standards were much different than they are today. In Victorian times, a small, tightly controlled mouth was considered beautiful. In fact, photographers during this era elicited the desired portrait expression by having their subjects “say prunes”. Smiles during this time were only typically captured on children, peasants, and drunks.

One of the most common culprits blamed for the neutral expressions on subjects during the Victorian era is the long exposure time for photographs to be taken. To understand where this reasoning comes from and why it is likely incorrect, you need a very brief history of photography.

The creation of permanent images began with Thomas Wedgewood in 1790, but the earliest known camera image belongs to French inventor Joseph Nicephore Niepce in 1826. The photograph is entitled, “View From the Window at Le Gras”. It is historically said to have required 8 hours of exposure time, but in reality it could have taken as long as a few days.

An exposure time of this length was obviously not conducive to capturing images of people and so the quest to do so continued. In 1839, Louis Daguerre introduced a new form of photography, Daguerrotype, where a positive of the image was developed directly on the photographic plate. This did not allow for reproduction of shots taken, but it did cut down exposure time significantly. Daguerrotypes remained extremely popular until the 1860s. From 1839 – 1845, exposure time for Daguerrotypes was about 60 – 90 seconds, which was a long time to remain motionless and hold a smile, but not impossible.

By 1845, exposure time on daguerrotypes was cut to only a few seconds. The majority of pictures we see are daguerrotypes taken after 1845, thus eliminating the blame for the lack of pearly whites shown by our ancestors of the Victorian era on long exposure time.

Speaking of pearly whites- the next most common reason cited for people not smiling in photographs in the Victorian era is blamed on dental hygiene. The most common cure for sick teeth during this time was to pull them out. There were no caps or other fixes to make chipped or broken teeth more aesthetically pleasing. So perhaps the reason tightly controlled mouths were considered more beautiful than beaming smiles in the Victorian era was in part due to dental hygiene.

Keep in mind too that daguerrotypes were expensive. The rich were more likely to be photographed than the poor, and even then, most families were only photographed on special occasions, perhaps only even once in a lifetime. The majority of these photographs were taken in a professional photography studio. There was nothing casual about photos taken then and the etiquette for formal occasions at that time was to act “prim and proper”. What was socially acceptable in photography during the Victorian era mirrored the beauty and etiquette standards of the times.  You wouldn’t want to pay all that money and have the one time you’re photographed in your lifetime showing you smiling like a drunkard!

Fast forward to 1888. This is the year George Eastman founded Kodak, a company most widely known for its production of photographic films. Kodak changed the face of photography in more ways than one. Kodak brought photography to the masses and to all occasions ranging from super casual to superbly formal. The company introduced its first pocket camera at a cost of $5 ($135 today), the Pocket Kodak, in 1895. It was the introduction of Kodak’s $1 Brownie camera in 1900, however, that changed the world of photography forever.

The Brownie camera was intended to be so inexpensive and so simple to use that anyone could take a picture. In fact, the Kodak slogan at this time was, “You push the button, we do the rest.” Photography as a hobby was now a possibility. Capturing “everyday” moments was now a reality- more and more smiles were now captured on film.

With the invention of film also came the movie industry. Although the majority of films made before 1930s were silent, everyday moments and facial expressions were reproduced on the big screen for all to see. Movie stars of that era were captured in photographs with *gasp* smiles. As we know, the media and Hollywood have a huge influence on social etiquette and beauty standards. As more and more celebrities were captured on film smiling, the smile became more socially accepted as beautiful and as an acceptable thing to do in photographs.

So when did it become tradition for people to smile in photographs? This happened in the beginning of the 1900s, due to more and more casual moments being caught on film both in Hollywood and amongst family and friends.

Bonus Facts:

  • George Washington is one of those who had incredibly bad teeth and by his inauguration in 1789, he had only one natural tooth remaining- this would have been hardly a dignified look in his Presidential portrait, had he chosen to smile. ;-)  Despite what you may have heard, though, he did not have wooden dentures.
  • Today, one of the more well-known and inexplicably popular photographic “smiles” for teenagers and some young adults is the “duckface”. This is usually performed by females during self-photographs with said photography subjects pressing their lips together in a half pout, half kiss formation, causing them to look very similar to a duck’s bill. This may be yet again owing to the influence of Hollywood, with the obsession with botoxed, full-looking lips. Who knew Daisy Duck would become the new face of “beauty”?

[Smiling Girls Image via Shutterstock]

Source…www.today i foundout.com

Natarajan

Eat Right Food for Healthy Life ….

As the world celebrated Yoga Day in style, it’s useful to remember that eating right is a big part of the Yogic way of life. Our wise ancestors laid down the principle that we are what we eat and that the right food can help us along the route to wellness of body and mind.

Here are some recipes ideas for Sattvic dishes, which contribute to the maintenance of Sattva guna — the state of being calm and peaceful.

Tabbouleh, a healthy salad

Photographs: Food Stories/Creative Commons

  • 1 cup broken wheat (dalia)
  • 2 cups water
  • 1 cup fresh mint, finely chopped
  • 1 cup fresh parsley, chopped
  • 2 tomatoes, chopped
  • 2 tbsp lime juice
  • 2 tbsp olive oil
  • Salt and pepper to taste

Soak the wheat in water for an hour or so. All the water should be absorbed. Drain, if there is excess water. Add all the other ingredients and mix well. Allow to stand for half an hour for the flavours to develop. You can add some pomegranate kernels to give this salad a sweet twist.

Yogic Chocolate Orange Cake, a sweet that’s good for you

Photographs: Stephanie Kilgast/Creative Commons

  • 1 1/2 cups flour
  • 1/3 cup cocoa powder, preferably organic
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 1 cup raw sugar
  • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
  • 2/3 cup orange juice
  • 1 tsp vanilla essence
  • Zest of 1 orange
  • 2 tbsp fruit vinegar

Grease and line a 9-inch cake tin. Pre-heat the oven to 180 deg C. Combine all the dry ingredients in a bowl. Stir all the liquids, except for the vinegar, in another bowl, whisking until smooth. Fold liquids into dry ingredients and then add the vinegar. Pour into the prepared tin and bake for 25-30 minutes. Turn out once cool. This cake can be topped with melted dark chocolate.

Dal and palak soup, a nourishing meal

Photographs: Angus Dwyer/Creative Commons

  • 1/2 cup moong dal, washed
  • 2 teaspoons vegetable oil
  • Pinch of asafoetida
  • 1 tsp cumin seeds
  • 1/2 inch piece ginger, chopped
  • 1 green chilli, chopped
  • A pinch of turmeric powder
  • 1 bunch palak, cleaned and chopped
  • Salt to taste
  • 1 tbsp lime juice

Heat the oil in a pressure cooker, add the asafoetida and the cumin. Follow with the ginger and green chilli. Add the dal and turmeric, saute for a minute. Add two cups water and pressure cook for 6-8 mins.

Release pressure, and mash the dal. Add the palak and the salt. Add more water if soup is too thick. Heat until the palak is just cooked, add lime juice to taste and serve. You can add a spoonful of cooked rice to the soup bowl to turn this into a substantial meal.

Tips for Yogic cooking and eating

 

 

  • Avoid animal products, overly spiced and greasy foods
  • Eat freshly cooked foods
  • Do not consume stale food, food that’s been refrigerated too long or microwaved food
  • Eat local and seasonal
  • Do not cook in a state of anger or distress
  • Eat calmly, slowly, mindfully

 

Source…www.ba-bamail.com

Natarajan

Message For the Day…” Develop Self Confidence and Lead a Successful Life…”

Sathya Sai BabaEmbodiments of love! Where the six qualities of zeal, determination, courage, intelligence, ability and heroism are present, there Divine help will manifest. In any field, at any time, success is assured to the person endowed with all these six precious qualities. They help you confront various difficulties from time to time and contribute to your all-round well-being. Just as a student must pass various tests and examinations, these qualities are also subject to trials. Such trials are your stepping stones to high achievements. These trials come in the form of losses, troubles, pains, sufferings and calumny. Unfortunately, many students and elderly alike, lack self-confidence and have become a prey to peacelessness because of their involvement in sensual pleasures. Youth, students and everyone must develop self-confidence. In fact, self-confidence should be the life-breath of every person. Develop self-confidence and embark on the journey of life with faith in God….

” Do Not Royally Annoy the Guards…” !!!

The Queen’s Guard guard the Queen’s official royal residences in the UK.

The Queen’s Guard guard the Queen’s official royal residences in the UK. Source: YouTube

THIS is the reason people don’t touch the Queen’s Guards — they fight back.

The guards have quite a reputation for getting narky with misbehaving tourists, but one man got the shock of his life when he made what appeared to be a friendly gesture toward the guard outside Windsor Castle.

The tourist was seem attempting to mimic the guard’s march when he made the epic mistake of placing his hand on the back of the guard’s shoulder.

But the guard didn’t appreciate the tourist getting handsy. “Step back from the Queen’s Guard,” he yells.

The guard quickly grabs for his gun and points it directly at the tourist’s head as he runs away.

Footage of the incident was uploaded to YouTube and has been watched more than a million times.

It’s not the first time a tourist has fallen foul of an aggressive guard. Earlier this month a photographer was barged by guards after he inadvertedly stood in their way during a march, The Independent reports.

While a woman called, “The guards are coming down, Derek. Mind! Mind!” The man ignored the plea and was mowed down by the parade.

The moral of the story: Don’t royally annoy the guards. No good can come of it

Source….www.news.com.au and http://www.you tube.com

Natarajan

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”

 

You may be in daily interaction with negative people, be they friends, family members, a romantic partner or colleague. You love them, you care about them, you can’t just cut them out of your life, but they are negative and their negativity is eating away at you. What can you do?
The best way of dealing with life’s challenges is to take a good look at ourselves and take responsibility for what we think, feel and do.
Never give your power away by blaming others for what you have or don’t have, what you feel or don’t feel. Once you do so, you’ll become a victim of circumstance, and instead of using your time and energy to beat life’s challenges, you’ll sink to a dark and miserable place.
Here are 10 smart, positive and effective ways of dealing with the negativity of the people close to you:
 
1. Give up the need to complain
Make sure you are taking responsibility for your feelings and mood. Don’t go complaining that other people’s negativity is affecting you, because it will only create more negativity. Take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and see what you can do to make yourself feel better and change the existing situation.
Whoever has limited knowledge of human nature and seeks happiness by changing everything but his own attitude, will waste his life in futile efforts.”
Samuel Johnson. 
2. Similarity Attracts
Good brings about good, bad brings about bad, and if we want to or not, we pull into our lives events, situations and people that reflect our internal state. Ask yourself: “How am I feeling? Am I happy, excited, thankful and calm? Or am I anxious, frustrated and judgmental?”
You may find that you radiate misery to the environment and that part of the negative energy surrounding you is in fact a reflection of yourself.
3. Don’t believe everything you think
This is definitely one of the hardest things to learn. Look closely at the negative people in your life. What is it about them that gets you going? What affects you so much? Is what they are doing really that bad or is your brain playing games with you?
Remember, the brain is configured to look for trouble, and it focuses on other’s negative qualities. It’ll be very hard to get it to see the positive side of things, but it doesn’t mean it’s not there.
4. Focus
Ask yourself: “Am I ready to find the good in these people? Am I able to see their good qualities?” Let the answers come naturally, make sure you are being honest with yourself.
If you feel like you’re insistent and won’t change the way you are looking at people and situations, don’t give yoursef a hard time. This takes time and patience, and when you are ready, you’ll make this step. Remember, we all have good in us.
It’s so hard when I NEED to do it and so easy when I WANT to do it.
Annie Gottlier.
5. Don’t make their problems YOUR problems
For their sake and yours, make sure you are not adopting their problems and becoming negative about them yourself. If you want to cure negativity, sliding down right along with the negative person won’t help, it will just make it worse by validating their thought and behavioral patterns. Rather, focus on solutions, not problems. Offer that and nothing else.
6. Taking ownership
Instead of being a victim and judge, blame and pass criticism, you need to take full responsibility for your thoughts and feelings, and take a different approach.
Everything that annoys us in others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.
Carl Jung.
Don’t waste your time obsessing and thinking: “They are ruining my energy, making me miserable, their negative energy is infecting my own…” Instead, say to yourselves: “How can I use this for my advantage? Is there something I’m doing wrong? How can I improve the situation and increase my positive energy to be stronger than their negative energy? What do I learn from all of this?”
7. Come with your own positive energy
Focusing on negative energy cannot create positive energy, and the other way around is also true. Focus on making yourself happy enough that you have great positive energy, and you will see the negativity cringing away from it.
Remember, energy is contagious!
How to put up positive energy? Focus on the things you like about the negative people, focus on things you love about yourselves, life and the world around you. Think of loved ones, of things that make you happy. That way, you will increase the positive energy exponentially.
If you incur negative energy by thinking about bad things, the opposite is also true, and you’ll be able to hopefully ‘wake up’ your fellow workers. You can’t focus on them both at the same time, so choose – happiness or misery.
8. Be part of the change you’d like to see
The world is no more than a reflection of who we are, deep inside. Try to go for a feeling of well-being, to live a positive life, a merry life, that has love, trust, and the pursuit of happiness. We cannot change others, but only ourselves. This is the only way to change the world.
Think of it this way: When you are happy, the world seems happy, and the sky is open and blue. When you are sad, the world seems sad as well, and the sky is grey and uncaring, leaving you alone to deal with your pain.
Flow with life events, don’t resist them, live in harmony and be the change you wish to see in the world.
Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never overestimate your power to change others.
Wayne W. Dyer.
9. Awareness and acceptance
Work on understanding life’s inevitable duality – accept the negative with the good. Don’t harp on people’s negativity, don’t judge or fight them. Let them be, look and accept. Remember, your world is no more real than a reflection of who you are, deep inside. Don’t try to bring everyone into your own world, accept theirs as no less real than yours, and their point of view as no less valid.
The hardest part of acceptance is accepting that, sometimes, some people cannot be changed. Their negativity is something they will defend to the last drop. Not because it gives them pleasure, but because they think it is a natural part of themselves. Even though it’s never too late to try and change that point of view, some never will. It is up to you to either accept their negativity and react accordingly, or take your distance from them. This is especially hard when it is someone we love.
Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of others.” |
Carl Jung.
10. Move forward
Dealing with negativity and trying your best to disspell it can be exhusting, and at some point you have to move on with your life in a positive way. Find a path that allows you to go on with your life without the negativity of others, but also without the regret that leaving a loved one or friend behind may cause you.
Make your feelings known to them, make them understand they are hard to be around, and slowly decrease your contact. If they want you to stay in their lives, they will be forced to at least pretend to be less negative, and pretending is the first step to actually becoming less negative. The more we act a certain way, the more we believe in it.

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Natarajan

Message for the Day…” Once You Conquer External Tendency, Control of Internal Conflicts become Easy…”

External control helps internal control in many ways. To succeed in external controls is more difficult than to achieve success in controlling the internal! A turn of the steering wheel in one’s hand in any direction makes the wheels of the car, which are not in one’s hand, move in the same direction. The wheels won’t turn in one direction when the steering is turned in another; this is the natural. But sometimes, when the steering is turned one way, the wheels may drag another way, but this is due to the giving up of the natural characteristic. The internal wheels, if they have no air, which is the true essence, may behave as if there is no relationship with the steering. But they can’t go beyond the bounds of steering; the steering in the hand is related to the wheels below. If there is no such relation, the journey becomes impossible. Therefore for the one who has struggled with and conquered the external tendencies, the internal tendencies become easily controllable.

Sathya Sai Baba